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Before i relegated my oral to sex in the shower I would explore other options. As others have mentioned things may have changed and he may have tollerated it at the begiining (hard to say).
Personally, i could smell/taste like month old fish and my hubby would likely not want to admit it and you may never get a straigth answer. I would go to a doctor/research on the internet to try and see if there is an issue.
I washed and shaved myself carefully. Then I applied a bit peach flavor body oil around the private part, I rinsed it, so it remove the taste of body oil but the fragrance was still there and it actually smelled like a sweet peach. My husband couldn't get his mouth away from it. He gave me a very good oral and then we switched to 69. We had a great and very long oral sex for each other! Best oral I ever enjoyed. So if it tastes good, he would enjoy eating you!
I washed and shaved myself carefully. Then I applied a bit peach flavor body oil around the private part, I rinsed it, so it remove the taste of body oil but the fragrance was still there and it actually smelled like a sweet peach. My husband couldn't get his mouth away from it. He gave me a very good oral and then we switched to 69. We had a great and very long oral sex for each other! Best oral I ever enjoyed. So if it tastes good, he would enjoy eating you!
Every man can give oral sex and should learn the technique, it can drive us women into heaven!!! Yes, we have to make sure we taste good.
I agree with greenpearl, men should give oral if only because it can be so much fun for all parties. A lover having orgasm after orgasm does wonders for one's ego and the relationship, even if it annoys the neighbors.
I enjoy giving oral pleasure to my new girl friend, happily she enjoys what I do even more than me and I become very happy in the process. I like the way she tastes and feels.
My new GF keeps herself neatly trimmed, her legs smooth, her body clean, wears attractive bras and panties, she is nicely shaped, feisty, opinionated and open emotionally. We're both over 60, our minds 17, we are acting our mental age. Lots of fond emails, kissing, necking, hand holding, talking on the phone, making possible plans for trips, meals, and the like, but scared of where we're going in barely more than a month since meeting.
Past history - my stbxw never liked me giving oral, doesn't think her body is attractive (it was when we met and for years afterward, she'd been dancing for years) or vagina is pretty, liked sex but wanted to be under the sheets, not visible.
I've long felt she kept us from great mutual pleasure that in turn leads to better times together. Previous lovers had a good time when I gave oral, so I'm led to believe my technique is at least OK. She called my fingers magic, I knew what she liked and she gave me detailed directions - up, down, left, right, in, out. Not my problem any more.
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Originally Posted by greenpearl
Every man can give oral sex and should learn the technique, it can drive us women into heaven!!! Yes, we have to make sure we taste good.
Every man can give oral sex and should learn the technique, it can drive us women into heaven!!! Yes, we have to make sure we taste good.
I adore oral sex...Shave at least twice a week and do my thing...Get the book "Satisfaction" by Kim Cattrall and Mark Levinson...It is very tastefully illustrated and can add one heck of a lot to a marriage...About five years ago my husband was not doing my clit the way I wanted him to...Saw Kim on Oprah....Got the book...Left it out to the open page of what I wanted....This was next to his Bunn coffee deal...The next morning I woke up to a man between my legs giving me oral...The book worked...Man, now he flicks me great....Great book....And believe me, I smile as I write this...He is really good....
I adore oral sex...Shave at least twice a week and do my thing...Get the book "Satisfaction" by Kim Cattrall and Mark Levinson...It is very tastefully illustrated and can add one heck of a lot to a marriage...About five years ago my husband was not doing my clit the way I wanted him to...Saw Kim on Oprah....Got the book...Left it out to the open page of what I wanted....This was next to his Bunn coffee deal...The next morning I woke up to a man between my legs giving me oral...The book worked...Man, now he flicks me great....Great book....And believe me, I smile as I write this...He is really good....
Awesome success story, thank you for posting and letting others know there is hope.
I'm left wondering if he heard "You can wake me up like that ANYtime!
I remember something I read a long time ago about women swallowing. I don't remember whether it was an article (something professional) or a post (some hear-say), but it said that, assuming there are no hygienic issues, if a woman doesn't swallow you could say she doesn't fully accept her man (shoot me - whether it was about a physical acceptance or emotional, I don't remember).
So if you reverse that and apply it to your husband then his "loving to do it before but not so much now" and his "(not) being in the mood" would kinda make sense.
Why would a guy want to eat a pu55y smelling like perfume? My understanding is that most men love the way a woman naturally (clean of course) smells. Our bodies release phermones, sweat, and hot bodily fluids, why would you want to cover that up? If my mans c0ck smelled like Burberry I would feel like I was deep throating the bottle. Not so hot. ..
But then again .. I am a pig and a pervert. Sex is like a drug and the tastes and aroma adds to the experience.
Just never understood the perfumed pu55y, unless of course you just have a really stinky foul smelling one .. In that case I would highly suggest to stop "masking" your offensive odor and get it checked out.
I make sure my private part is well cleaned, shaved and smell like perfume before I go and sit on my husband's face. You will need to make it a habit If you really need it often but make sure it has a nice & clean taste first. Make sure you inform him you already well cleaned yourself and then he's more willing to do it.
I second this.... as a guy I don't mind at all giving oral, but smelling clean (and being clean) helps a ton. I'm really sensitive to smell, and so I can quickly pick up on.. maintenance issues, which basically destroys the mood, without going into detail.
Men do whatever it takes to bring you down the aisle...then they stop doing the things they didn't initially like (oral sex) for your husband. My marriage is duplicated to yours, same story. I've learned to live without. I don't think you can entice, force or encourage someone that isn't interested in oral. It isn't right or fair to do these things before marriage and then stop (totally agree). Some men are selfish and care more about there own needs.
Now there 40Jane you are being a little jaded and putting all men into that category...... there are just as many women who do the exact same thing. It is a two way street for everyone.
I am sorry you are having to go through this.
I'm on the other side of the coin. My husband wants to give me oral, but I feel weird about it. The smell issue bothers me. I don't want him to have his face in that, and I certainly don't want to kiss him after he's done it! If I can let go and completely surrender to the passion, then I will let him do it. I do always enjoy it, but I just feel weird about it. Now things are different since I've bought a couple of gels / pastes for oral sex. One's spearmint and the other is peppermint flavored. The peppermint one has a little bit of menthol in it, too, to help with the gag reflex. After trying these, my husband says that he enjoys it even more.
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Re: Husband refuses to give oral 
Yes, we have to make sure we taste good.
