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Old 12-23-2010, 03:05 PM   #1 (permalink)
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For men in their 40's...how would you view your interest in sex now? (i.e. frequency, desire, etc). How would you compare it now to how you viewed it in your 30's and 20's?
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Old 12-23-2010, 04:08 PM   #2 (permalink)
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I'll answer this one for my husband. At one time he could have had sex 3 times a day (but we never did) in his 20's, maybe early 30's we could have done it twice a day (we still never did)- he was horny most of the time because we only had sex about once a week. (Regrets ! Regrests!- both our faults! )

Now in his 40's , he would probably be happily content with it 2-3 times a week, but I push it more to 5-6 times. His refractory period is almost a whole day now -he is 47 and has lower -but "normal" testosterone levels. He is not feeling it like he used too, but then again, I am draining him alot so he has little chance to build it up. The man still loves sex & wants to be intimate so all is good here. But a little slither of viagra is a blessing now & then, especially on those nights he might be a little tired.
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I'll answer this one for my husband. At one time he could have had sex 3 times a day (but we never did) in his 20's, maybe early 30's we could have done it twice a day (we still never did)- he was horny most of the time because we only had sex about once a week. (Regrets ! Regrests!- both our faults! )

Now in his 40's , he would probably be happily content with it 2-3 times a week, but I push it more to 5-6 times. His refractory period is almost a whole day now -he is 47 and has lower -but "normal" testosterone levels. He is not feeling it like he used too, but then again, I am draining him alot so he has little chance to build it up. The man still loves sex & wants to be intimate so all is good here. But a little slither of viagra is a blessing now & then, especially on those nights he might be a little tired.
Damn you're demanding. What the hell am I getting myself into with a 38-year-old?
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Old 12-23-2010, 04:40 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Damn you're demanding. What the hell am I getting myself into with a 38-year-old?
Am I making myself sound Atroocious here?! Really? Not sure if you are kidding or really mean that ! None of my other friends my age are anything like me, all their hubby's are missing it, so this is not a "sure thing" with older women.

As I see it & have learned here >>> Whoever has the higher sex drive ought to be pursuing what they are wanting - at least talking to thier spouse about it ! My husband was a total NICE GUY -with all the passivity that goes along with it. He should have been more AGGRESSIVE with me -when he was "feeling it" daily. But choose to suffer quietly & stuff it down as not to push me.

Now the tables have turned, I couldn't live a day as passive as he is. Anyway , more sex is supposed to boost a man's Test levels some, so I am "GOOD" for his health!

So 40 year olds don't want a Nypho then? For a time, I was feeling I would be much better matched sexually with a younger man.
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Men are only interested in having "sex". Try being intimate and see how your love life will improve.
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Men are only interested in having "sex". Try being intimate and see how your love life will improve.
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Men in their 40s are not that interested in having sex. They are much interested in doing their own things.
They might be interested in having sex if they're free to choose WHO with.
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I'm 42, and I don't notice any less of a sex drive than in my 20s. I don't know why this is the case because I thought it normal to slow down a bit, but I didn't experience a change, not even with getting an erection.
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I'm 42, and I don't notice any less of a sex drive than in my 20s. I don't know why this is the case because I thought it normal to slow down a bit, but I didn't experience a change, not even with getting an erection.
It happens when men stop taking care of themselve. They gain weights and feel lazy to do sport. So I guess you take good care of yourself

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It happens when men stop taking care of themselve. They gain weights and feel lazy to do sport. So I guess you take good care of yourself
Southbound, you must have really good genes and higher Test. Plus are taking good care of yourself. I bet you have a hairy chest too.

Not all men who slow down are over weight though, mine weighs only 150, he eats very good. I compare his chest to a "Charly Brown Christmas tree" - a sign of lower test guy. All about the hormone for many many men , what God blessed you with- though no fault of your own, or your wives.

Plus if men have built up resentment over time, loose attraction for their spouses, getting used to not getting it & suppressing it/stuffing it down, I would imagine these things can slow a guy down too. Many claim the "Use it or Loose it' philosophy when it comes to sexual potency, even hardness, got to keep the blood flowing ! These things need exercised too.

I told my husband I think I am making myself look bad on this forum with all my "draining him" talk. He assured me tonight he would do it like "bunny rabbits a couple times a day" if he could, the desire is always there , every day is good, so long as it goes up, he WANTS to use it. He has told me this many times. Still love hearing it though.

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Southbound, you must have really good genes and higher Test. Plus are taking good care of yourself. I bet you have a hairy chest too.

Not all men who slow down are over weight though, mine weighs only 150, he eats very good. I compare his chest to a "Charly Brown Christmas tree" - a sign of lower test guy. All about the hormone for many many men , what God blessed you with- though no fault of your own, or your wives.

Plus if men have built up resentment over time, loose attraction for their spouses, getting used to not getting it & suppressing it/stuffing it down, I would imagine these things can slow a guy down too. Many claim the "Use it or Loose it' philosophy when it comes to sexual potency, even hardness, got to keep the blood flowing ! These things need exercised too.

I told my husband I think I am making myself look bad on this forum with all my "draining him" talk. He assured me tonight he would do it like "bunny rabbits a couple times a day" if he could, the desire is always there , every day is good, so long as it goes up, he WANTS to use it. He has told me this many times. Still love hearing it though.
Good to hear! Your husband has a positive attitude when facing his manhood challenge.

Lack of testosterone can cause fatigue, limited motivation, depression, low self esteem, and decreased libido. Not all men are able to cope with this issue so optimistically. My husband would hate to be pushed to have sex when he's not in the mood, despite he has viagra.
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I told my husband I think I am making myself look bad on this forum with all my "draining him" talk. He assured me tonight he would do it like "bunny rabbits a couple times a day" if he could, the desire is always there , every day is good, so long as it goes up, he WANTS to use it. He has told me this many times. Still love hearing it though.
How about me?

I tell my husband: pu$$$ itchy, my pu$$$ is itchy.....................

My husband says: Come and get your f**k right away!!!

It feels great that I can get to have his toy at any time I want!!!
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I tell my husband: pu$$$ itchy, my pu$$$ is itchy.....................

My husband says: Come and get your f**k right away!!!

It feels great that I can get to have his toy at any time I want!!!
LOL I dare not to say such bold lines to my husband! You and your hubby have lots of fun together!
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Man, can I marry one of you??? I am 40 and as horny as ever, meanwhile my wife, 43, would be happy if we never have it...
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