Re: He doesn't like sex?
dont know about the gay thing...but my h isnt over the moon for sex, either. oral is his thing, usually its me giving, i get it here and there, mostly my fault for that, always too busy to sit down for something nice for me....
but we did have a lot in the first year...yea, just about one year living together, and it cut way back. it used to irrate me, but we talked and hes just more into oral, what can i do.
we have sex, but if im not like hey remember sex hello...hi..sex now...now...now, hey how bout now...he forgets and says oh you did say that.....huh...
for me its fine, and we have worked out a lot of things from the past. that could be your situation as well, if you started putting stipualtions on sex, and on hand j, and on bjs, and made demands, and used to for bargining, he will resent everything to do with sex, and pleasure for you.
you should tell him that sex is intimate for you, and its what you NEED to feel close to him. he might think oral is intimate for you just as it is for him.
he could be punishing you for years old issues. dont know. i think a little of punishment, a little more intimate for him.
or it could be his "kink", or his fetish. if thats the case, talk tell him is fine but sex will happen a couple of times a week, and if he dosent live up to his end of the deal...tell him nothing will happen, whatever he wants will continue.
most guys will feel a little guilty for takeing all the pleasure, and will come to a understanding within them selves. like news flash...other people exist...
but tart by talking, and dont do it when hes unziping his pants. talk outside the bedroom. calm, non-jugdemental, no blaming, and no yelling. only acceptance of what and who a person is...
sorry its on the long side.
it wasnt my intent to come across like suck it up girl, just giving you some different ideals, and different ways of fig out reasons..
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