Here is some back ground:
Been together for 20 years and married for 14.
2 kids / dog / 2 cars / cottage.
No infidelities on either side. After our 2nd child 6 years ago, we slowly started to slip away from sex. I though well, itís hormonal / having a baby / her body image etcÖ
Then it came back somewhat. The last 2 years has been very disappointing. We have sex once a month or once every two months-this is brutal!!! I love sex Ėespecially with her. Sheís a beautiful woman at 38 and looks great! Iíve tried to bring up why in the past but got nowhere. Sheíll use things like:
ďMy hours at work are hardĒ
You donít do enough around the house
ďNo, just donít feel like itĒ
Well, I beg to differ. I do a lot around the house Ė laundry, dishwasher, vacuum, look after the cars, yard work take the kids to ringette / hockey and other things.
She does a lot as well, donít get me wrong. It 50/50 for sure.
I really believe that a strong marriage requires a solid sex life too.
In the past Iíve bought her Lingerie, Stilettos and toys when we were great in bed.
She hasnít done any of this since we were trying to get pregnant with our 2nd.
Iím getting to the point where an affair crosses my mind a lot now. Iíve been on POF looking but not requesting. How do I turn this around?? Iím actually thinking of having an affair!!! (Never would though). How to bring up what is our issues?? We never fight either. Weíve had stressful times in the last 2 years as I lost my job to the economic down turn 2 years ago. Thatís in the past as we are fine for money as I was out of work for 5 months.
This no sex thing has been going on for 5 years now and I have to end it. I fear I might leave soon. I need that touch of a woman. Any suggestions guys would be appreciated.