Here is some back ground:
Been together for 20 years and married for 14.
2 kids / dog / 2 cars / cottage.
No infidelities on either side. After our 2nd child 6 years ago, we slowly started to slip away from sex. I though well, it’s hormonal / having a baby / her body image etc…
Then it came back somewhat. The last 2 years has been very disappointing. We have sex once a month or once every two months-this is brutal!!! I love sex –especially with her. She’s a beautiful woman at 38 and looks great! I’ve tried to bring up why in the past but got nowhere. She’ll use things like:
“My hours at work are hard”
You don’t do enough around the house
“No, just don’t feel like it”
Well, I beg to differ. I do a lot around the house – laundry, dishwasher, vacuum, look after the cars, yard work take the kids to ringette / hockey and other things.
She does a lot as well, don’t get me wrong. It 50/50 for sure.
I really believe that a strong marriage requires a solid sex life too.
In the past I’ve bought her Lingerie, Stilettos and toys when we were great in bed.
She hasn’t done any of this since we were trying to get pregnant with our 2nd.
I’m getting to the point where an affair crosses my mind a lot now. I’ve been on POF looking but not requesting. How do I turn this around?? I’m actually thinking of having an affair!!! (Never would though). How to bring up what is our issues?? We never fight either. We’ve had stressful times in the last 2 years as I lost my job to the economic down turn 2 years ago. That’s in the past as we are fine for money as I was out of work for 5 months.
This no sex thing has been going on for 5 years now and I have to end it. I fear I might leave soon. I need that touch of a woman. Any suggestions guys would be appreciated.