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Isn't it better after 40 having a husband with high sex drive?aging isn't good to sex

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#1 ·
I read here so many people arguing that too much of a high sex drive is not good, well, what about as you get older and biologics kick in?....are you sure that you don't want to have a partner who no matter how you look want to make love to you, give you oral, and as much pleasure as possilble?...I mean, life is short and you don't get any younger or hotter...shound'nt you embrace and feel lucky that you have a man or wife that wants to give you and receive as mas pleasure as possible?...:scratchhead:
 
#3 ·
I mean so many people get caught up and frustrated because her / his partner has a high sex drive and they don't know how to handle them....well, after 40 when women become more confortable with sex, they your hubby start giving up and basically so much rejection gets to you and that's shouldn't be....if you have a partner with a higher sex drive than you, embrace it and deal with it, because later in life, is going to be your jack pot!!...when everyone else is getting almost none, or very lame sex, you'll getting whatever you want to experience....for example, myself I am a butt and pu..y licking guy, I like anal, vaginal, bjs, filming, fu..k my wife face, etc....2 years ago, i couldn't even finger my wife....today after a lot of work, honesty, communication and understanding, my wife understood that i don't have a hidden agenda, that i don't want to abuse her....is the way i am...the way god made me...and not having access to her body the way i needed was killing me....today, i have everything i dreamed of....not perfect, but i love my wife for letting herself loose and give herself to me in a way that finally i feel really loved.....
 
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A TAM success story. I bet in your wildest imagination you couldn't imagine it turning around like this.
 
#4 ·
I read here so many people arguing that too much of a high sex drive is not good
Ha Ha, you'll never hear me coming from this camp of thought! Sadly I spent far too many years not thinking about how important it was, taking our sexuality totally for granted.

I am not at all happy with the fact men start slowing down as they age, I let this play on my mind more than it should. But I am blissfully thankful I live in the era of such wonderful (even accidental) discoveries as good ol' Viagra. Now we can go till we hit dust. :D
 
#10 ·
Hi SimplyAmorous,

My husband has got 100mg viagra from the doctor, and he tried to cut it into 4 pieces.

It works well, but it's hard for him to climax and ejaculate even after 20-30 mins intercourse.

Is it normal ?

I'm exhuasted already, also he is exhausted, but he can hardly reach his orgasm.

Does your husband face same problem?

Any advice?
 
#12 · (Edited)
With or without V, my husband can usually "go" within a few minutes of slow pumping (after some forplay - we average maybe 6 minutes give or take), most often he is struggling to wait for me, having to stop here & there, waiting for me to get mine 1st.

Now, if we tried to have a 2nd romp like maybe 9 or so hrs later --for those times when he took that slither & it is still working, Yes, it does take him alot longer, could be 20 minutes-
the last morning BJ I gave took that long & literally a dry orgasm at that. He just doesn't "need" it that much. Once a day is his kosher limit.

Does your husband take any other meds ? Lots of meds can slow reaching orgasm for many people. I have a some friends, we are very open with our sex talk, his wife was telling us it has always taken him over an hour to climax, one of the reasons sex is a chore for her. He is on "adderall". Don't think he ever tried Viagra.

It is supposed to help you "last longer" though, I have read where docs have given it for Pre-mature Ejaculation issues. Have you tried giving him a lower dose to see if it makes him firm enough. Maybe a lower dose will have less of that lasting effect. But 25mg is decently low. They say with lower Test, some can go " too fast" and some struggle to go.
 
#11 ·
Good change of attitude Marcopoly!!

I've taken Viagra just to see and did nothing for me except make me feel like I'm 15! Every side effect you can get I got most will never take that crap again.

As far as SEX my wife has been the same..for the most part...our whole married life.

2-3x a week if average for over 10yrs now. The only time is what alot more was when we were 18-22.
 
#17 ·
I'm glad the little blue pill works for some, but doesn't for mine.

We've tried all of them, Viagra, Cialis, Levitra, you name it. Doesn't work at all. But his issues are also not only physical in nature, but meds and I believe some psychological issues too (MO).

Wish it did work - we have 3 full bottles. I've tried slipping him some thinking maybe it did work and he didn't want me to know. but alas - it did nothing.
 
#24 ·
I think it's absurd to suggest hairy chests corrolate to high testosterone. The Beatles all had testosterone levels through the roof (Paul routinely had sex with 7 to 8 groupies per night when they were on tour). None of them had hairy chests, because they are British.

Northern European men generally don't have the hairy chests of Arabs, Greeks or darker races. It's just an evolutionary thing. It has nothing to do with testosterone. Millions of care-chested men have huge sex drives and plenty of those with hairy chests have low testosterone.
 
#34 ·
I'm 34. I've always been HD. But it has gotten even higher the last 3-4 years (I would like 3-4 times a day if time permitted). Unfortunately, my wife has been having thyroid problems which has caused her drive, which was lower than mine before, to decrease. Although, they have her on some medicine now and we have had either oral or sex 5 of the last 6 nights, so I am hopeful!
 
#35 ·
Wow, I can't believe when I read that some men just simply are not interested in sex. Let's just say that I started exploring my own body very young and its been a non-stop adventure. I have been married about 20 years and my wife has never been able to keep up. A few years ago, something did kick in, not sure what, but my sex drive is in overdrive. It is difficult though having a sex drive of 10 when your wife is at 1 and trying to remain faithful. I am a numbers person and lets just say that between myself and wife I am at 175 for the year... not too bad for 50. I am refusing to grow old and sit in some damn chair until I croke! I see people younger than me that look 20 years older than me... Not gonna happen.
 
#36 ·
The fact that the multi-billion dollar industry for Viagra and the like shows that there are couples out there banging away in their 40s and above. The marketing ploy shows that the guy needs to use the pill to keep up with his wife and satisfy her when his body is working against him.

If those ads were based on my marriage, it would show an already HD husband chasing his L to MD wife around the house even more than before and her trying to stave it off, giving in once a week and jerking him off a few other nights so she can go to sleep.
 
#43 ·
My belief is the increase in Cialis and Viagra sales was due to politics that disempowered males and empowered females. A lot of guys got their d1cks killed in the process.
 
#37 ·
hmm...when I was 25-30...I was able to have sex whenever I wanted...even if I wasnt in the mood...hell I had sex at the tail end of stomach flu even though I didnt want to...erections were no problem...and I could go many times...

NOW...at 45...I nead more coaxing, and a lot more down time between...I still have VERY high Drive...but my body is not always with my libido...I am not ready for the little blue pill yet, I AM taking steps as far as diet, exercise...NO MASTURBATION or porn, to make it better

This is why older women like younger men...
 
#38 ·
I don't think that there is any ailment that would make me turn down sex. A flu, bad cold, shivering fever - any wouldn't effect me to the point where I wouldn't want to have sex or at least masturbate.

That's how I know women are different than men. Any slight headache, cramp, stomach ache, my wife plants the seed that she's not doing anything that night.
 
#45 ·
Mr H is in his 50s and no decline in drive or stamina, we have sex 10 or more times a week. No long refractory period either, he can have sex within an hour again. Fwiw he has a hairy chest and thinning on top, has always been very HD. We hope to be having great sex for many years to come. I am late 40's and also very HD. The chemistry between us is amazing, IME this is they key factor, simply to be having sex with the right person, someone that turns you on.
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#46 ·
I dont take viagra or cialis or nothing. I've had a high drive ever since I can remember. I started taking t injections 5 or so months back. I didnt have problems in the bedroom, just lack of energy and staying fatigued. Thats not an issue anymore with the injections. Doc told me that my drive hasnt slowed down by now, it probably wont, I turn 45 next month. The injections make me feel like a horny teenager again though, I was already hd and now thats up twice as bad and I'm wearing the wife out, lol. As far as a rest period between sessions, it really all depends. If we been going at it at least once a day, usually one shot has her and me both satisfied. But if I've had to give her a break for a few days, after 30 minutes, I'm ready to go again. After lots of sex for 4 or 5 days in a row, I need a break myself. Just really depends on the person and how their schedule works I guess. Who knows, maybe in a few years I'll need viagra or something. I dont cut my hair because its falling out, lol.
 
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