Ladies what makes you horny? anything visual? sounds? touching? words, which ones?, - Page 3
 Talk About Marriage
  The Marriage Advice and Relationship Help Forums
  right
Forums - Online Counseling - For Therapists - Link to Us - Advertise  

    A Public Forum Provided by The Family & Marriage Counseling Directory
Register FAQ Community Search Today's Posts Mark Forums Read

Navigation »Talk About Marriage »Focused Topics »Sex in Marriage » Ladies what makes you horny? anything visual? sounds? touching? words, which ones?,

Sex in Marriage Sexual problems are common in many relationships. This section is for discussions about sexuality. Please limit discussions to those asking for help with a problem and those offering advice. Any other threads may be deleted.

Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Search this Thread
Old 01-21-2011, 11:45 AM   #31 (permalink)
Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: The Netherlands
Posts: 377
Default Re: Ladies what makes you horny? anything visual? sounds? touching? words, which ones

Quote:
Originally Posted by jezza View Post
Why is it that we men have to bring our wives coffee in bed, fill their SUV with gas (where I come from we call it petrol!!), put the washing on, fix the leaking tap, buy them flowers, wine and dine them...all because we want our wives to say 'Yes' to us turning them on, making love to them and making them have an O...and us also having an orgasm!

Reverse it.... wife brings us coffee, runs a bath for us, washes our back, takes the car to be serviced, mows the lawn...in the hope that we will let her screw our brains out!!!
Come on guys...wouldn't you just love to have all that done for you then when she comes on to you you say 'honey, I have a splitting headache..mwah...goodnight'... Except in reality we have to take every opportunity we can!

And to those of you who have a fully rewarding marriage, in EVERY sense...you lucky ba$tard$!!!
You should go here Men, do you understand your wife sexually? and discuss Would be very interesting to see both your viewpoints.

Now, I have to say, mine doesn't require that stuff, but I still like to do them. She always tells me that all she needs is for me to be there. Do keep in mind though that she has always been a very sexual girl

So I'd say, do those things because you want to, not because you want sex. Just like I do not like to get "let's get it over with" sex, she probably would not like those things if they were all for the sole purpose of sex.
Draguna is offline   Reply With Quote
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
Old 01-21-2011, 11:49 AM   #32 (permalink)
Banned
 
Join Date: Jul 2010
Posts: 2,740
Default Re: Ladies what makes you horny? anything visual? sounds? touching? words, which ones

Quote:
Originally Posted by marcopoly69 View Post
I am asking this question because my lady doesn't really respond or get very interested to watch our own soft-porn movies that we make. Although I think we look very hot, seeing ourselves doesn't seem to make her horny?....I asked her what makes you warm inside and she looked at me and tells me feeling safe, happy, that she can count on me....which I make sure she gets...but I would like to understand what else can I do to rock her world....thanks
I do NOT want to see us in the act. I don't care who you are, your O face is not pretty. And I don't want to see my O face.

Things that make me horny... hmmmm... On the light side, going out in the evening. Going dancing and flirting with my DH. Dancing close. Playing do you think that one or that one is good looking while out? ... Suggestive text messages during the day. Suggestive, not crude.

Role play. Dress up. Strip teases. Getting him crazy. Not so much WATCHING but being the center of attention.
Mom6547 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 01-21-2011, 12:07 PM   #33 (permalink)
Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: The Netherlands
Posts: 377
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by vthomeschoolmom View Post
I do NOT want to see us in the act. I don't care who you are, your O face is not pretty. And I don't want to see my O face.
Wooh, can't agree more. Like my gf's face, she likes mine, but both of us woul not be able to watch our own. I have no problem watching other people's faces. They always intrigue me, the beauty they express. And seems there is a market for it http://beautifulagony.com/
Posted via Mobile Device
Draguna is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 01-21-2011, 12:09 PM   #34 (permalink)
Banned
 
Join Date: Jul 2010
Posts: 2,740
Default Re: Ladies what makes you horny? anything visual? sounds? touching? words, which ones

Oh one more thing. Sexy music really does it for me.
Mom6547 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 01-21-2011, 03:38 PM   #35 (permalink)
Registered User
 
Join Date: Sep 2010
Location: Alabama
Posts: 14
Default Re: Ladies what makes you horny? anything visual? sounds? touching? words, which ones

I can tell you one thing that definitely makes my wife horny; reading erotica to her. Specifically, I will read Penthouse forums to her. I buy the different books from Books a million. It doesn't take long, and she is rubbing herself, moaning, the clothes start coming off, then she is in full blown masturbation mode. All of this occurs while we are sitting in the vehicle, usually within sight of others.

I will also make her take turns and read to me. It gets her hot reading the stories, but builds anticipation since she can't really take care of herself while she is reading.
CaptainMyCaptain is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 01-23-2011, 08:42 AM   #36 (permalink)
Registered User
 
Join Date: Jan 2011
Posts: 8
Default Re: Ladies what makes you horny? anything visual? sounds? touching? words, which ones

For me, when my husband kisses me on the neck and on my ears god i go crazy. I would want him to take some time slowly slowly...I some time end up finishing before him when he plays with me like this.
Anangel is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 01-23-2011, 12:28 PM   #37 (permalink)
Member
 
okeydokie's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2008
Posts: 2,125
Default Re: Ladies what makes you horny? anything visual? sounds? touching? words, which ones

Quote:
Originally Posted by Star View Post
I've never really understood all this doing more chores ect to increase your chances of getting sex (and I'm a woman!!) either she wants to have sex or she doesn't, no amount of washing up, cleaning ect should have anything to do with it.
this has been my stance all along. i know my wife, when she wants something bad enough she would climb mount everest in a bikini to get it. sex is at her beck and call, but its just not something she wants as frequently as i do.
okeydokie is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 01-25-2011, 04:34 PM   #38 (permalink)
Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: California
Posts: 26
Default Re: Ladies what makes you horny? anything visual? sounds? touching? words, which ones

Quote:
Originally Posted by 40jane View Post
I think when a woman knows she is desired, pursued, valued for her input in the relationship, secure, her feelings are not questioned, is understood, told she is beautiful, can tell her fantasies and has a man that wants to please her...this is what turns a woman on. It starts emotionally and ends physically. What happens outside of the bedroom stays in the bedroom! (good or bad) LOL
This was probably the most useful post in this thread... that sounds about right.
DudleyD is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 01-27-2011, 05:40 PM   #39 (permalink)
Member
 
tattoomommy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2009
Posts: 114
Default Re: Ladies what makes you horny? anything visual? sounds? touching? words, which ones

Quote:
Originally Posted by MsLonely View Post
I can be turned on pretty fast, if my husband gives me a drooling look, with his eyes telling me he wants me badly, I will jump on him & rip off his clothes right away...and eat him all over his body... Yet, he doesn't like aggressive woman who takes the lead... What a pity...
That is all I want from my hubby is to get him to look at me like that. I can't remember the last time...


As for the OP- keep exploring with her. Make it fun though so it's not pressuring. Not like, "OK honey, tonights anal porn at 7, tomorrow is some bondage at 9. That work for you?" If she doesn't know what she wants, you won't either. You said you feel like it's been this way always. How long have you been trying to help her figure it out? Has she ever had an orgasm?

I have a friend that I've known since we were freshman in college (7 years ago) and she was just married this past year. Not once in 7 years has this girl been horny!! I made it my goal to get her at least interested in sex (simply because I'm polar opposite from that and couldn't bear the thought that my best friend hadn't ever enjoyed it!). I watched porn with her- some with sex some with just girls masturbating so she'd have an idea of what to do, should certain feelings arise. Hell, we had kissed so many times while out drinking, one day completely sober I kissed her til she couldn't breathe just to get a response lol. NOTHING. The girl just isn't interested.

She said she gives her H BJ's all the time because she'd rather do that than have sex.... I pray your wife isn't like that, because I have no real advise having personally tried with my own best friend LOL. She is the proof I didn't believe was out there that some women just aren't interested...
tattoomommy is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 01-27-2011, 05:43 PM   #40 (permalink)
Member
 
tattoomommy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2009
Posts: 114
Default Re: Ladies what makes you horny? anything visual? sounds? touching? words, which ones

Quote:
Originally Posted by jezza View Post
Why is it that we men have to bring our wives coffee in bed, fill their SUV with gas (where I come from we call it petrol!!), put the washing on, fix the leaking tap, buy them flowers, wine and dine them...all because we want our wives to say 'Yes' to us turning them on, making love to them and making them have an O...and us also having an orgasm!

Reverse it.... wife brings us coffee, runs a bath for us, washes our back, takes the car to be serviced, mows the lawn...in the hope that we will let her screw our brains out!!!
Come on guys...wouldn't you just love to have all that done for you then when she comes on to you you say 'honey, I have a splitting headache..mwah...goodnight'... Except in reality we have to take every opportunity we can!

And to those of you who have a fully rewarding marriage, in EVERY sense...you lucky ba$tard$!!!
I would so do anything to get him to react that way!!! I just LOLed so hard!!! Oh boy lol....
tattoomommy is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off


Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Question for the ladies: Horny vs Self-conscious Hurra The Ladies' Lounge 14 06-11-2012 12:33 AM
Code words or special touching to initiate sex. MAEPT10 General Relationship Discussion 18 01-11-2012 06:40 PM
Ladies what makes a man handsome to a woman? WayTooAverage The Ladies' Lounge 25 10-25-2011 09:37 AM
Ladies, what makes you desire a man? sadatheart The Ladies' Lounge 11 10-10-2010 09:17 AM

Member Area

Find a Therapist:


Sponsor Ads





Get The Family & Marriage Counseling Directory Help Guide via Email:
Name:
Email:




All times are GMT -5. The time now is 05:41 PM.



Copyright 2007 - 2013 © Talk About Marriage