Husband with low sex drive..
My husband and I are newly married, we are both very young and should be enjoying a fruitful sex life. Sex used to be great, even though we didn't do it as often as I would have liked, it was usually 3-4 nights a week, but it was always great. He used to take time to make me feel good and I would do the same in return. It wasn't simply intercourse, there was foreplay, touching, and just a feeling of enjoyment. It slowly faded, he tried less and less to make me feel good and now we have sex only a few times a month and it always goes the same. He decides it'll fit into the schedule and suddenly he'll just take off his pants, I'll go down on him, till he decides it's enough and then right into the intercourse. He's commonly irritated by the fact that I'm not aroused enough, but he doesn't give me a chance or even tries to arouse me.. The sex lasts about 10 minutes, he climaxes then rolls over and goes to sleep. I'm left feeling very very empty and unwanted. It reached the point where, I no longer even crave sex, I'm constantly insecure and self conscious because he doesn't touch or kiss or do anything to make me feel even remotely desired. When I try to initiate, which I have no problem doing, the sex feels like he's just trying to do it so I can't say we don't. Like a chore he just wants to be done with.. I try my hardest to discuss it, to tell him how I feel and try to find a happy medium for us, but his response is always an excuse about the fact that he has Prostatitis.. I've done research on it, aside from painful ejaculation and pain in the groin area, there's really nothing about it lowering a man's libido. I mean I guess the mental aspect of it, but this is something he's had since he was around 13. It's mild, his main symptom is frequent urination. I believe he just uses it as an excuse.. I want to know why his sex drive is so low.. He doesn't watch porn, he doesn't check out other women, he is in shape, physically active, we eat well and have a great time together. We don't have any issues aside from an occasional disagreement, our biggest fights stem from our sexual issues.. I want SO badly to be kissed, touched, wanted.. I've tried everything with him, have costumes, lingerie, toys, porn, erotic literature, I initiate, I give him space to initiate, I try romantic nights. I took the pressure off and didn't mention sex, bug him for sex, or even appear to be remotely interested in sex, hoping it would allow him to want it and not feel so pressured by me, and we didn't have sex once during that month.. I'm at my wits end.. I want it, yet when I think about it, I feel so very very depressed. I cry at night when he's fallen asleep, I can't even masturbate, I feel unattractive.. I feel a lot of resentment building up in me, and I want so desperately to make it go away, but I don't know what to do. At 21 years old, a man should be aroused and ready to go.. I feel as if I have done something wrong.. He's been like this for at least 6 months before we got married.. We have no kids, very little stress, we're happy and we can talk about everything, except for this. I have no idea where to go from here..