Re: "Tomorrow evening then..."
Just a quick update - Our counsellor gave my wife 'the article' last Tuesday (1st Feb)...I posted the above just after my counselling session.
My wife had a session two days ago and I have just come back from mine.
The counsellor asked my wife if she had read the article...'No, I put it in a draw so no one would see it and completely forgot about it'.
In the recent past my wife has said things like...'if you want me to come to bed earlier I want to eat earlier'....and...'why don't you take the dog for a walk in the evening'...and 'why cant we spoon and watch more television or a film together'....'...if you want me to feel more sexual'....
So, being a normal man, I have been doing all those things and walking home from work (2 miles) = excercise.
I haven't been doing these things just to get laid...excercise is good for you, marriage is a team so why shouldn't I take the dog for a walk or prepare dinner earlier or spoon with my wife whilst we watch a film...or give her a massage etc...thats what being married is all about.
Has my wife made any effort to be sexual? No. Have we had sex in the past 3 months? No.
Does my wife realise we have a sexless marriage? Yes (according to our counsellor)...
Is my wife making any apparent attempt to resolve things? No.
And now she 'forgot' to read DanF's article explaining all about mens sexuality.
If I have an affair or seek sexual relief elsewhere then I am the bad, nasty, unfaithful adulteror and may I rot in hell.
Poor woman being married to such an unreasonable ogre.