I would like to say I saw the light - but the truth is I had a sexual awakening caused probably by changes in my hormones - I am still not quite sure why. Usually women have this change in their early 40's. I was in my late 40's. When this happened I was horny and aroused most of the time. For the first time - I decided to let go of the "good girl syndrome" that had developed somewhere in my upbringing and explore my sexuality.
The POWER of hormones, never underestimate their role in our behaviors & desires. I think when a us older women come into a rush of testosterone or heavenly mixture of sex hormones that does this, it compels us to seek out SEX, there is an Irresistible pull like a moth to a flame, just like a raging hormonal Teenage boy. It is natures way.
It took very little for me to loose my "Girl Good Syndrome" when I found myself literally "wet" 24 hours a day. Naughty thoughts were taking over my mind, I had a tremendous boost in energy, Flirting was my new language. I will never understand why this happened to me, doesn't appear to be much to explain it out there to read. But it was all goooooooood. Frustrating too , feeling I had a sex addiction & bothering the crap out of my husband for a time.
I have learned that sex for me really is mostly in the brain (which throughout this time period has stayed constantly horny) The more we have sex the more I want it. The more I want it the more we do it. And the more we do it - the happier we are and the healthier our marriage is. And those are the benefits that make me WANT sex. A lot of it! lol
Amen to this.
need aroused now, no longer ready to jump on him as soon as he hits the door .
But unlike before this awakening, I just "didn't get it", I used to be grouchier back then too!!! So good wives out there -hear us older wiser women......IF you find yourself irritable for not much reason, just grouchy at the drop of a hat, without growing resentment in your marriage, seriously, whether you realize it or not, you probably need LAID! More intimacy, more seduction, more playful flirting -be receptive of this heavenly bonding.
I often wished I could go back in time -to relive what we missed. Now that I have tasted of it, I WANT TO BE AROUSED , never want to loose that. (I will seek hormones out in menopause if this diminishes). We PURPOSELY arouse each other now - to keep the spark, the spice, the happiness ongoing.
The way I feel NOW , I believe , is the same as I did BEFORE my awakening, but clueless to the power of these things. So let us be a voice to you -if you are reading this.
Here is a fantastic thorough article about how SEX starts between the ears >>> Your Brain on Sex | Reuniting
A happy, healthy, and frequent sex life has such a bonding effect between a husband and a wife. It has truly made such a difference in everything between my husband and I. We get along better, we communicate better about everything. And we are like newlyweds who can't keep our hands off of each other - a lot of PDA. Even our kids (who are all married now) comment on it.
My kids have even walked past & told us to shut the door ! Ha ha