AltoSax4ever

Wow, talk about an open thread with everything on the table!!! 17 years of marriage and I can't even get one! I have done it to her, and have asked, but to no avail!!! Swallow or not to swallow is not even a question, the act of it is a flat out no...

SimplyAmorous

Let's just say I am VERY thankful I do not have to make any of these very difficult decisions, and I sympathize with anyone in that position of an unsatisfactory sex life at home. As truly, the grass is not always greener.

Me & mine are compatable in just about every way possible outside of the bedroom. It it true, Like Marco, I may want "a little more" out of him sometimes IN the bedroom, but at least he gives me alot of sex (again like Marco's wife-but not quite that much!). This does the heart merry !

If I had to compare - Alot of vanilla with a highly affectionate attentive husband - I would gladly take THIS over a horn dog erotic husband who was a workaholic, lacked affection & needed his cave daily.

We always have to weigh the good & the bad, don't we, and find peace with it.

Getting back to the subject, my husband has no care whatsoever whether I swallow. He is just happy I want to finish in my mouth. But IF it was something he really wanted, I would very much want to do that for him.

nice777guy

I have to admit that I've also never distinguished between spit or swallow. I mean, its not the most complimentary feeling if she darts off to the bathroom and I hear her gargling Listerine, but at that point, I'm in my HAPPY place and VERY thankful.

Mike188

I'm a long way from getting my wife to swallow. I'm a long way from getting her to let me finish in her mouth. I'm a long way from getting to finish a BJ one way or the other. I still have to work pretty hard to get oral sex PERIOD, and then it is very rare and only lasts for about two minutes and she is tired (our massages usually go the same way - me doing the massaging for about thirty minutes and she doing me for about two minutes).

She doesn't like to do it. I have good hygiene habits. I'm not sure what the problems is. She gives excuses like:

1. It hurts her jaw for her mouth to be opened that much for that long. In case you are wondering, I'm maybe a little above average, but not much. I'm normal in size.

2. It hurts her knees. She is slim and doesn't have knee problems. I recommend she find a position that makes herself comfortable.

3. It hurts her back.

4. She is self-concious.

5. She is afraid that she isn't very good at.

My wife LOOOOOOOVVVEEESS to receive oral sex more than anything. It is her most reliable way to achieve orgasm. I always give it to her because I know how much she likes it and I want to please her. She said that I could stop giving her oral sex because she said it wasn't right that she receives it every time but then almost never gives it to me. She was willing to give up something that she loves so mush and something that brings her so much pleasure and is pivotal to our sex life so that she wouldn't have to feel guilty about not giving me oral sex. I told her that would reducing our sex life down to the lowest common denominator.

I don't get this. Can someone explain it to me?

Catherine602

When you say that oral is the most reliable way that she can get an orgasm do you mean that if you stop giving her oral then she will have less orgasms?

glitchathon

Mike188,
It seems pretty clear that your wife hates giving head and the situation sounds bad. There is one possibility though: do you provide feedback letting her know what feels good and what doesn't? I know I hate giving oral to a woman if I feel like I am lost... I need to hear and feel some kind of reaction. Same with my wife... it is so much more fun if i express myself and stroke her and share eye contact. Maybe you freeze like a deer in headlights when you get it because it is so rare and you are genuinely shocked that it is happening so that it becomes an uncomfortable moment for everyone? Just speculating, sorry if it is not true at all.

I know it sounds shallow but I do feel like I cannot remain in a relationship where BJ's to completion was not regular. It is an act that means so much to me. I cannot quite explain it. Afterwards, I feel like I can't do enough for my wife to show my appreciation. After 6 years with her, I still feel that way everytime.

bluesky

My observation-

Most of the woman that have swallowed for me were either ONS's or early in the relationship.

Once they have gotten used to me......they do it less often and don't swallow.

Honestly, it does not bother me if they don't swallow.....provided they don't make a huge production out of it.

Draguna

Woooo, lucky. Another random blurp. Why not swallow yourself. Shock her. Show her that you are ok with it, why isn't she? Could that actually work? I don't know, but if you can't swallow your own stuff, don't ask your wife to
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Syrum

I enjoy doing it for my fiance. But I admit that is because I love him and his pleasure is important to me, it's a nice thing to do and it turns me on too.

WadeWilson

Not a fair exchange....
and just because you wouldn't have a problem...
still don't mean she wont....

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Draguna

Heh, didn't mean it this strictly. More of a proposal. Show her that you don't mind and it's notvas gross ahsshe might think. I'd never think, hey, if I do it, why won't you?
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nice777guy

Seems like someone on this board once posted that his wife agreed to swallow if he would do it once.

He kept up his end of the deal. She didn't....

WadeWilson

Never agree to the "O.k, you first" game...

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nice777guy

Just goes to show what guys will do to get a BJ!!!

greenpearl

Draguna,

One time I asked my husband to test his own juice, he said: Hell NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO................That's for youuuuuuuuuuuuuu..........................!

Sometimes I play with his cok, balls, and pubic hair, I put my hand in front of his nose and want him to smell it, he quickly holds his breath or moves away.................I tell him it smells wonderful, he tells me that " You are a sick woman!"

Sperms are not delicious, I wish they can be more tasty.

I gag when I swallow, I feel dizzy after I swallow.

I do it because it is the only way I can make my husband's whole body excited...........it sends him wild when I lick him after I swallow.