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Old 02-27-2011, 06:16 PM   #106 (permalink)
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Maybe you just 'suck' at it?
Ya know, I have asked that question several times (simply because of the time thing) saying... "if I can do something better, would love to know..." done everything I can to assure that I DO want to know if I can do something different, and am just constantly assured that if there is something better to be done, they don't know what it is so... it ain't that. Just weird men HAAAAAAA
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Old 02-27-2011, 07:16 PM   #107 (permalink)
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Here are a few of my rules and they have been bent/broken depending on the woman I'm with.
If she spits no kissing afterwords.
If I go down on her and she kisses me after I will kiss her if she swallows.
You wait 25hrs before going down on her after you shoot inside of her.
The taste of love is sweet, if your in love it shouldn't matter who's jizz it is.
Now I've only been w/ one woman who would swallow every time and I did the same for her, we always kissed after sex, and she was the BEST I've ever had!! My current wife comes in buckets so I need rain gear and a snorkel, it is impossible to swallow it all, I'd drown!! She will swallow once or twice a year if I'm lucky. She will kiss me after I go down on her but she has to be turned on real bad, again once or twice a year.
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Old 02-27-2011, 08:34 PM   #108 (permalink)
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I wonder what you guys are doing to her while she gives you a BJ. Are you touching her breast,rubbing on her butt, touching her vagina? How are you making this sexy for her and keeping her aroused? I personally change posistions a lot and drape my self over his body to give him lots of access to my body which he takes advantage of. As long as he is touching me and making me feel good, what ever goes on (as long as it doenst hurt) is pretty much okay.
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Old 02-27-2011, 09:33 PM   #109 (permalink)
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9 years and still going strong, hate the taste and texture can't swallow, tried so many times, my husband is not an angry man so he does not act dissatisfied. He is smarter than that, he knows how much I am sensitive to failure. maybe in the future when I grow up a little more.
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Old 02-27-2011, 10:48 PM   #110 (permalink)
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A question I have is if getting a blowjob is so great why does it take 10 - 15 minutes to cum when sex takes him only 5 minutes unless he stops every now and then for a break to think about his latest project and get him off topic in order to make sure I reach the big O?

Wouldn't you think if blowjobs were so awesome and we were willing to suck it down each time, that 2 minutes work is all we'd have to put in?

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Well, here is my personal input. BJs are mostly visual. It is not about her making me come, it is about her enjoying my equipment. The more into it she is, the more she wants it, the more arousing it is. And all the extra stuff accompanied by it is also nice. Seeing the want in her eyes, having her go deep, being a bit sloppy, those kind of things.

Now, I'm not saying it doesn't feel good. It really feels good, but more in the sense that a finger in a woman feels good. It won't make you come unless you hit the right spot. Some things are unique to a BJ, but my hand, while it doesnt feel and look as amazing, is better at hitting the right spot, same during intercourse. Both are just better at the jerking motion. To be honest, it does vary from time to time. Sometimes in 2 minutes, most of the time too long to go on. If she really wants to though, she can cosistently make me come in under 10. But most of the time it's foreplay.
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When I give head to my hubby, I swallow. I really hate it but I just sort of grin and bear it at the time. I dislike the taste and the feeling when he is orgasming. But sometimes you just gotta do it for the team, as they say! Reason I do it is because apparently men are absolutely devastated emotionally if you don't swallow it. Not sure why - it makes no rational sense - but hey sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do
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A question I have is if getting a blowjob is so great why does it take 10 - 15 minutes to cum when sex takes him only 5 minutes unless he stops every now and then for a break to think about his latest project and get him off topic in order to make sure I reach the big O?

Wouldn't you think if blowjobs were so awesome and we were willing to suck it down each time, that 2 minutes work is all we'd have to put in?

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Its not as tight - and there's not a constant rhythm/movement - usually more "teasing" as part of the act. (Not much teasing in the middle of IC...)
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Old 02-28-2011, 08:29 AM   #113 (permalink)
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Really? Not a constant rhythm/movement?

I must be doing something wrong with my H then!! Haha
Doesn't have to be - to me that's part of the appeal.
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Really? Not a constant rhythm/movement?

I must be doing something wrong with my H then!! Haha
NG is right. Posted my explanation a bit before his. Constant rhythm and movement can make you come faster, but it isn't as good a BJ then. More of a stress reliever. A good BJ doesn't require it constantly. A good BJ has to arouse me mentally and visually. Something a hand, intercourse or something else can't do. Also, the feeling she is enjoying and worshipping your ****. Wouldn't be the same without it.

Same as eating a woman out. Different ways of doing it. Soft, slow, hard, fast, sloppy, all around or concentrated, but in all those, I am worshipping her clit and showing her that I love it as well and would do anything she asks.
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To me the BJ is the most important time for my wife to show me how much she loves me....at that moment, i can relax and enjoy my wife...i dont have to do most all the work, so i can concentrate in just enjoying the moment...that is why all my life, it has been so sad for me not seeing my wife getting it and as a result being lousy at it...it has been long since then, and today, it is much much much better...not always, but it is what it is,......hopefully some day she'll understand that if i am to have this done to me once a week (complete not foreplay), that she has to be ready to do what i need her to do, it means to show me that she wants to be there and that she is willing to do her best; otherwise, not but thanks!...it is just too hurtful and i cant handle it when i dont find it hot....well, a lot of you would say at least you get it, but to me that's not the point....not after, all i have worked in my relationship..
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