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post #91 of 100 (permalink) Old 01-31-2017, 04:50 PM
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Re: How do I handle my husbands fantasy of me sleeping with another man

Has the OP left the building?
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Has the OP left the building?
After all those pages of comments, probably. Still an interesting topic.

My 2 cents. As long as a committed couple can clearly share boundaries and can express their desires and fantasies there is the potential to work something out.

Personally, I think any kind of 3 some is a bad idea. On the other hand there can be "role playing" that "may" not cross boundaries and yet provide the "illusion" of a threesome. There is an interesting TED talk on Monogomish/Monogomy 2.0 and a "stimulus package or grey area of/for marriage."




In particular listen to around the 9:50 mark. Where she talks about adding forbidden thoughts to a marriage with no action. Then she talks about talk, but not touch. The brain is the biggest sex organ and it is easily stimulated and tricked. She gives examples of how to spice up a marriage and yet has the limits that they can live with. Then she talks about of actions without violating their sexual boundaries. For example if a 3-some is desired, then going to a "strip club (male or female), calling a phone sex operator, trying to role play some sexual fantasy.

A cuckolding 3 some fantasy, can be tying the husband naked to the bed, blindfolded, leaving the room, ringing your own doorbell, Having the wife carrying on a conversation with an "other man," playing a porn video of loud sex with the wife screaming out in her voice dirty talk. Then later having an imaginary conversation with their lover, and loudly opening and closing the front door. Then taking her time, removing her clothes, and opening the door to her husband tied up on the bed. She can then tell him all about the sex she had with her lover. She can then push all of her husbands mental buttons, whether it is tell him about her lover's size, technique, asking him to "clean her up" etc.
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I know only one couple that were capable of this, and it was strictly because they made a business out of it. They invested in and operate an upper crust swingers club and bar in our city. (I do the books, AND maintain an absolute professional distance) Even they admit that marriages are effected by this lifestyle, usually negatively.
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Re: How do I handle my husbands fantasy of me sleeping with another man

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Has the OP left the building?
Um, the original poster (OP) has not been on TAM in over 2 years.

Why do these 3some/cuckold/open marriage threads keep getting resurrected?
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Um, the original poster (OP) has not been on TAM in over 2 years.

Why do these 3some/cuckold/open marriage threads keep getting resurrected?
The newer generations arent practicing traditional marriages as older generations. I've come across more and more "poly" women the last few years.

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I am going through the same issue. I'm very conservative and could not find myself doing such a thing.
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The theory behind why men want to share their wives. Its called sperm competition! Goes something like this. He watches you have sex and wants to compete sexually with the other male to produce offspring. After watching you have sex he will be harder than normal. He is going trust harder and deeper and both testicles are going to release sperm giving him a more pleasurable powerful orgasm. Without the competition usually only one testicle releases sperm and the orgasm becomes routine/everyday thing. Your body is capable sex with several men for hours taking turns with you, it you let it. Being in competition both men are capable of multi-orgasms themselves. Always play safe.
So....you're like a cuttlefish....
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Um, the original poster (OP) has not been on TAM in over 2 years.

Why do these 3some/cuckold/open marriage threads keep getting resurrected?
Because pervs like reading them and getting themselves off.
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After all those pages of comments, probably. Still an interesting topic.

My 2 cents. As long as a committed couple can clearly share boundaries and can express their desires and fantasies there is the potential to work something out.

Personally, I think any kind of 3 some is a bad idea. On the other hand there can be "role playing" that "may" not cross boundaries and yet provide the "illusion" of a threesome. There is an interesting TED talk on Monogomish/Monogomy 2.0 and a "stimulus package or grey area of/for marriage."

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0sYguTPLpHE



In particular listen to around the 9:50 mark. Where she talks about adding forbidden thoughts to a marriage with no action. Then she talks about talk, but not touch. The brain is the biggest sex organ and it is easily stimulated and tricked. She gives examples of how to spice up a marriage and yet has the limits that they can live with. Then she talks about of actions without violating their sexual boundaries. For example if a 3-some is desired, then going to a "strip club (male or female), calling a phone sex operator, trying to role play some sexual fantasy.

A cuckolding 3 some fantasy, can be tying the husband naked to the bed, blindfolded, leaving the room, ringing your own doorbell, Having the wife carrying on a conversation with an "other man," playing a porn video of loud sex with the wife screaming out in her voice dirty talk. Then later having an imaginary conversation with their lover, and loudly opening and closing the front door. Then taking her time, removing her clothes, and opening the door to her husband tied up on the bed. She can then tell him all about the sex she had with her lover. She can then push all of her husbands mental buttons, whether it is tell him about her lover's size, technique, asking him to "clean her up" etc.

I googled this person above. She works for Playboy.
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Um, the original poster (OP) has not been on TAM in over 2 years.

Why do these 3some/cuckold/open marriage threads keep getting resurrected?
because it IS a juicy fantasy to think about. A lot of hollywood movies have themes like this, 3 somes or cheating, so OBVIOUSLY it is a mainstream topic people think about. An ultimate taboo, especially if you have been married a long time, resisted cheating, then all of a sudden the thought of getting a "hall pass" pops up!

But reality does not work out like the hollywood movie plots! that is why most of us are advising against this in real life. Keep it a naughty fantasy thought
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