sex without intimacy
My husband and I have been married for 8 years. I have lost alot of weight over the last year, over 100lbs. I am very hot now according to my husband. He is constantly grabbing my boobs and my butt and telling me that he wants to fu*k me because i'm so fu*king hot etc... we have a fairly active sex life.. I will admit, that for years i have had issues with being intimate like making out because i always think he's only after one thing...so i tend to pull back.... but i'm getting better about this....
anyway.... we have sex a couple of times a week usually and we get along really great for the most part... but we don't "make love" specifically I am upset about:
i havent been feeling the best, drained alot, so the other night i wanted to be close to him, so he was cuddling and started to feel me up in bed, and when he got on top of me i asked him to kiss my neck, he did for about 5 seconds and then stopped... i kept kind of moving his head to my neck and he wouldnt kiss me there.. i said Honey, just slow down it's not always about the ending, and he said he could smell the cream that i put on my face and neck after the shower and it stinks...umm ok... so i said hun, all you had to do was say you didn't like the smell and i would have wiped it off, so i got up to go wash my face and neck, and when i came back to bed he just laid there and made no attempt to welcome me back in the bed... so i laid beside him, and he just went to sleep.... I don't understand, he treats me well, but he only wants a quick **** from me, not an emotional connection at all... I'm hurt and confused, please give your opinions or advice. we have been married 8 years. we aer in our early 30's