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Just a quick question. After talking with my wife, she wuas telling me that all her friends husbands could care less about them having a big O. I'm not saying I'm Mr perfect but am I the only husband that most of my pleasure comes from getting my wife off as many times a s possible. From what I've heard this is not the norm. Posted via Mobile Device
I am offered mine first, but at the same time, the big O is not necessary every time. I can enjoy sex without it (both physically and emotionally) but I do get mine enough, and always first (he knows his limits and if I am not first, chances are it's gonna be one of those times I do without LOL )
My wife was a very uncreative boring lover. So I had to do everything. From start to finish. I always made sure she came and came first. But after years of a do nothing cold fish I gave up. It never mattered to her and I stopped caring Posted via Mobile Device
My wife was a very uncreative boring lover. So I had to do everything. From start to finish. I always made sure she came and came first. But after years of a do nothing cold fish I gave up. It never mattered to her and I stopped caring Posted via Mobile Device
My wife's pleasure is my goal. Very seldomly does she not have at least one orgasm, often two, and occasionally three, in one love making session, she came five times(that one made me feel like a super stud ).
It turns me on to no end to see her in the throws of passion. After she's done, I work on mine. After she settles down a little, she puts just as much effort into my pleasure as I do hers.
Sometimes, though, she'll work me over without getting herself off and on the occasional times when I can't hold out long enough, we have hands, mouths and toys.
to TFARNZ,.....I totally agree with you. My wifes satisfaction is a real turn on. I really enjoy giving her an orgasm. I can orgasm very soon after that. Sometimes, (alot) , when we have intercourse, we can both come at the same time . Its great. After all,...ladies first
It is very important. We hear about the increased frequency of sexless marriages and men not having as much sex as they would like or a wife who is like a dead fish but no one ever ask them the right questions. How good are they as lovers?
They all report being great lovers. How is it possible when so many studies show that men over estimate their wife's level of satisfaction. The real question is how much time do they take to warm her-up, have foreplay and then intercourse. If there is 15 mins between the approach to the his orgasm, it is doubtful that the woman is satisfied. A woman is not likely to be enthusiastic about watching her partner have orgasms using her as an outlet.
In addition, some men feel that after marriage they don't need to do the romantic things they did during the dating years. I am certain that means different things to each man but that is like a bait and switch, if he changes so will she.
I have always wondered what exactly does it mean when a man says - "I have to do all of the work". I have seen that so many times. What is the partner not doing that you feel she should do and what are you doing that your feel you should not have to do.
Can you be specific, I want to know. My husband does not give me any negative feedback he just lets me know when I do what he likes and tells me what he would like. I do the same. But I don't know really know how I measure up. What are the expectation in terms of what a man would consider an equal amount of effort on the part of both.
With zero feedback I am guessing in a relative sense. I don't claim any carnal Kama sutric mojo. But since I don't get any verbal response of any kind it's hard to tell. Posted via Mobile Device
Pffff... If not the best, it is up there. Rarely do I not make her come. Sometimes only once. Most of the time between 2 and 6 times. Record so far 9 I guess. I am lucky though that she comes relatively easy (compared to other women). Posted via Mobile Device
My husband's main goal is to please and pleasure me!
During sex, he really focuses on doing what makes me excited. When he gets me excited, I moan, my moaning makes him excited, and he cums very fast!
If he wants to pursue his fantasy, he makes sure I am comfortable with it.
My sex drive is higher than his, I want sex every day and sometimes twice a day. Very often he just lets me have my way and enjoy his body, he doesn't cum, and that really makes me feel loved by him.
He knows clearly that it is important to make me happy!
My husband is very interested in pleasing me. BUT that does not mean that every once in a while he does not want to just lie there and be regaled with sexual lovin without any effort on his part. I try to remember to do that every now and again. The thing to watch is that sometimes he will slip into a longer term lazy mode, and I have to say hey there bucksnort, what about me? He always responds positively.
How important is her satifaction 
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