Originally Posted by Entropy3000
He did not post them. Him taking these picture swas a feeble attempt at him not resorting to porn but visualizing his wife. The one who is supposed to be there for him. I could see him feeling that this was not cheating. She is his wife. We understand why he did not tell her. He is just desperate. A better step for him would be to divorce her. But he loves her.
Sorry looking at porn is not like banging another person folks. Lighten up. It is not like she is being faithful to him. Maybe she is not cheating, but by not meeting his #1 need she is being unfaithful to him. Yes, I said it.
I Agree with all of Entrophy3000's here -gets to the heart of the matter.
Either work to AROUSE your interest for the good man you have at home or let him go so he can experience passionate Love and devotion with another , someone who wants and desires him for HIM, what he has to offer a woman. I would never be able to remain in a near sexless marraige with once a month desire from my spouse.
And I got flack for saying this once on here, but in MY marriage, my body is his, his is mine, his taking pictures of me , and wanting to do that -- is not
a violation to me. BUt we have amazing trust. This husband sounds of that type to me. NOt some manipulative cheater who gets his kicks -so he can go show these off to his friends or online in some quest to get his rocks off. SHe did not speak about him in any sort of light to give such an impression -as least from what I did read here. (not all pages-sorry).
This is an older thread, wonder what happened ???
He likely said nothing too her cause she is not sexually minded enough to UNDERSTAND HIM and his cravings, anyone who only needs sex once a month- simply does NOT "get" - can not comprehned a higher drive person, they think we are all MAD.