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Old 03-22-2011, 02:31 AM   #1 (permalink)
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I was wondering whether anyone else had a dominant wife in the bedroom. Now my wife and I aren't into S&M or anything, but my wife takes charge in sex. For example, she'll grab my head and push it between her legs when we're making out. In fact, she even likes sex all around the house. I basically defer to her, and we get along great. Is anyone else relate to this?
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Old 03-22-2011, 03:17 AM   #2 (permalink)
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I am a kind of dominant in the bedroom.

My sex drive is higher than my husband's, so I want more sex than he does. I want sex every day, he wants sex once every other day!

When I want sex, I climb on top of him, he lies there for me to enjoy him, I get my orgasms, feel great!

When he is giving me oral, I push his head against me too, but not rough, the feeling is great, I just want more..............................
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More women if they are into oral will take the guys head and push/show what they want.

It is very sexy thing
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i hate you billgour, i hate you

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Old 03-22-2011, 10:56 AM   #5 (permalink)
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I was wondering whether anyone else had a dominant wife in the bedroom. Now my wife and I aren't into S&M or anything, but my wife takes charge in sex. For example, she'll grab my head and push it between her legs when we're making out. In fact, she even likes sex all around the house. I basically defer to her, and we get along great. Is anyone else relate to this?
I am one of those wives. After seeing this thread, I asked my husband earlier "Am I dominate in the bedroom?" - he answers "You are aggressive everywhere". Ha ha

I have never pushed his head down, I guess I feel a little funny about that one, but no need, he makes his way there all on his own. He said he would like that though! But I am like your wife in the sense, I am the one who wants to try new places, new positions- and he is more than happy to go along. I greet him at the door in lingerie (if the kids aren't home), pull him upstairs , seductively undress him, I go for what I want, I'll push him down on the bed & ravish him. And he does love this.

Laid back as he is, he has ALWAYS liked the more aggressive female, he has mentioned being turned on by Roller Derby type women. Once watching porn, Jenna Jameson (Flashpoint) all decked out in red leather, chains, I think a whip, things like that really DO IT for him.

So we make a good match- as these things come kinda natural to me these days. Even in the past, when I was repressed sexually, we still did "cowgirl" almost every single encounter, that is still his favorite.

And it is funny, I have noticed some of the more Dominate males on this forum, they do NOT like a dominate women in bed, they want to take the lead- pretty much always.

No S&M for us either. I did buy a book for curioisty, seemed a little too out there for me.

I started a thread on this over a year ago here >>

Want to hear from Men who PREFER dominant women IN BED...
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It is very sexy - as a man - to have a woman push your head down. Not sure if its so much 'dominant' as it is 'I want you NOW.'

Either way its all good!
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Husband and I take turns being dominate. We compete to see who is the most dominate, who can come up with the best dominate techniques.

We do some light S&M. H loves for me to boss him around. Demand certain sexual favors from him.

H is an alpha male. He is the boss man at his demanding job. He says it feels good to loose control, to let go and allow someone else to be in control. This is his release from having to be in charge. It turns me on to have control over him.
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I wish my wife would take charge in the bedroom every once in a while. As it is I often feel as though she justs let's me do my thing. If she were to take charge it would show me how much she wants me.
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We aren't into S&M at all either. But I do find that it's up to me (the wife) to initiate new things, new places.

He would be just as happy to do it in bed every night, but I need a little change-up now and again.

When the kids are home we don't have a choice, we have to be in our room on the bed.

But when they're NOT home I either like to do it LOUD or do it elsewhere in the house - the couch is comfy - or in a different position (sprawled acorss somehting) or dress up differently with something exposed :-)

He goes along with it and seems fine with it but doesn't initiates much new himself.

We get along great and have for 30 years. I kind of wish he would sometimes surprise me but no one's perfect. In fact he's pretty close to perfect for me :-)
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We aren't into S&M at all either. But I do find that it's up to me (the wife) to initiate new things, new places.

He would be just as happy to do it in bed every night, but I need a little change-up now and again.

We get along great and have for 30 years. I kind of wish he would sometimes surprise me but no one's perfect. In fact he's pretty close to perfect for me :-)
You sound pretty similar to me I do the new ideas, positions, etc. He says he'd like to do different things, but he can't come up with anything! So I gave him a project his week: To come up with something different for us to try and surprise me. He said he's definitely up for it, so hopefully he'll start coming up with some ideas and surprise me so I don't have to keep initiating the new ideas. We'll see...

You sound so cheery, Lacey! You make me smile
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my husband is the boss in bedroom. He decides where to put it. He would love for me to get on top more. But he knows I am not really comfortable with that.
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