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Old 03-25-2011, 12:32 PM   #16 (permalink)
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greenpearl, you may have a more sensitive sense of smell than the average person, too. Honestly, I guess I don't find the smell offensive or too strong. Hmmm.
I think it is true!

I gag easily!

My imagination is interesting too, I gag just by people describing something gross!
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Ok I have always fascinated about Cumming in my wifeís mouth, she just will not go for it. sometimes when she is giving me a BJ I just want to do it and cum in her mouth but I am afraid because she has said if you ever do that to her she will never give me head again, thatís a scary thought, I try to sometime wait a little long with hopeís that some will shoot in their will Iím pulling out and maybe she will taste it and think itís not bad and let me do it another timeÖ do some women enjoy doing this? the taste of it? or just do it because it pleases their manÖ
I highly enjoy giving BJs, and the greatest part is when he is in the midst of that glorious "finish". I have no desire for the taste, and he doesnt care whether I swallow or not (means nothing to him) but he is VERY happy that I give him a mouth sucking finish till the last spasm. I wouldn't have it any other way. I get turned on by HIS pleasure.

I am not even a guy, but I can see & understand your wanting this very badly. Not sure how to change her desires. As for me, at one time I looked at penis as homely and giving a BJ was rather repulsive to my senses, so I have came quite the ways sexually. So anything is possible.
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I highly enjoy giving BJs, and the greatest part is when he is in the midst of that glorious "finish". I have no desire for the taste, and he doesnt care whether I swallow or not (means nothing to him) but he is VERY happy that I give him a mouth sucking finish till the last spasm. I wouldn't have it any other way. I get turned on by HIS pleasure.

I am not even a guy, but I can see & understand your wanting this very badly. Not sure how to change her desires. As for me, at one time I looked at penis as homely and giving a BJ was rather repulsive to my senses, so I have came quite the ways sexually. So anything is possible.

I wish I had that. I don't think my wife will ever change like that. She has the sexual personality of a fish. I give her "oral pleasure" every time, which she LOVES and has come to ecxect, but she won't return the favor.
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Nowadays I don't mind giving a BJ. BUT I will say that when I was younger I felt differently - it felt insulting - as if he was peeing in my mouth. But I wasn't as turned on sexually as I am now.

I give him a BJ mostly because I want to make him feel good. I get excited when I see how excited he gets and that alone gives me pleasure. And then makes me hot.


Many times I have gagged - I think it's the consistency - it feels like a mucous glob when you have a cold, and can be salty like that too. I just grab some tissues and spit it out.

BUT recenlty I've discovered something new that is helping with this....He starts giving me oral and then it morphs into a 69 and when we're both grooving on it I find that I want to suck on him very actively, which he loves - and of course all that sucking results in swallowing. I've found that if Im on the bottom it goes down easily without me even thinking about it. And I'm very excited and am concentrating more on my pleasure than on the swallowing.

So why don't you try that? Start giving her oral, then when she's really enjoying herself position yourself so that she can give you one too that demonstrates exactly what she is feeling. Just put it near her mouth and say "show me how good I'm making you feel".

Who knows - maybe if you "do" her so good one day she will just suck you dry in appreciation.
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BUT recenlty I've discovered something new that is helping with this....He starts giving me oral and then it morphs into a 69 and when we're both grooving on it I find that I want to suck on him very actively, which he loves - and of course all that sucking results in swallowing. I've found that if Im on the bottom it goes down easily without me even thinking about it. And I'm very excited and am concentrating more on my pleasure than on the swallowing.


That's what I do too.

I lie in the bed, my husband ****s me missionary style, then he cums in my mouth, it goes down very fast, my problem is not the swallowing part, it is the dizziness I have afterwards.
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I highly enjoy giving BJs, and the greatest part is when he is in the midst of that glorious "finish". I have no desire for the taste, and he doesnt care whether I swallow or not (means nothing to him) but he is VERY happy that I give him a mouth sucking finish till the last spasm. I wouldn't have it any other way. I get turned on by HIS pleasure.

I am not even a guy, but I can see & understand your wanting this very badly. Not sure how to change her desires. As for me, at one time I looked at penis as homely and giving a BJ was rather repulsive to my senses, so I have came quite the ways sexually. So anything is possible.
Sorry to say I thought the penis was not so nice looking when I first got married. I've been told this by one or two women so I think it is not unusual. Since it is one of the reactions of some, some reassuring discussions in relationship books would be helpful.

To say that you think an important part of the man you love is unattractive would be like him saying your vagina is ugly. I think it is a matter of going through a period of adjustment and growing up. The influence of background and destructive concepts may be at work, if sex is dirty then a man's sex organ must not be beautiful.
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Sorry to say I thought the penis was not so nice looking when I first got married. I've been told this by one or two women so I think it is not unusual. Since it is one of the reactions of some, some reassuring discussions in relationship books would be helpful.

To say that you think an important part of the man you love is unattractive would be like him saying your vagina is ugly. I think it is a matter of going through a period of adjustment and growing up. The influence of background and destructive concepts may be at work, if sex is dirty then a man's sex organ must not be beautiful.
Believe me Catherine, I am more than fully aware of these hindering things. I started a whole thread on my SHEER IGNORANCE here, in case you missed it >>> When arousing Passion & our Mindsets Collide - Sexually Repressed to "Awakened"

That assinine comment of mine surely did nothing for my dear husbands willingness for us to explore more sexually, let alone asking me to give him pleasure with my mouth there! I know it HURT him, and this is why he never asked me. I regret many things.

A SEXUAL EDUCATION was a life saver for my coming out of the darkess or darkage mentality of "sex is dirty". Too many women grow up with a measure of this. It truly is a shame. If they could see , in their youth, what they will learn as they grow sexually , or later in life , it would save MANY marraiges MUCH heartache.
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I don't mind giving BJ's but don't care for it in my mouth. I make this clear and upfront when in a relationship. Obviously one guy I dated didn't care and he went ahead anyway. Talk about total disrespect. Told him upfront and he did it anyway, so he had to go! If he can disrespect me l with that, he can with anything.
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greenpearl, you may have a more sensitive sense of smell than the average person, too. Honestly, I guess I don't find the smell offensive or too strong. Hmmm.
I do have a strong since of smell but if I can smell it when he cums inside of me I don't want any parts of it in my mouth.
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I wish I had that. I don't think my wife will ever change like that. She has the sexual personality of a fish. I give her "oral pleasure" every time, which she LOVES and has come to ecxect, but she won't return the favor.
Have you spoken to your wife about how it makes you feel that you are willing to pleasure her and she has come to exspect it but not willing to try with you?
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As a guy, I could tell that it was not on my wife's top 100 list of things she liked, so I just told her not to. It's mutual respect.

Incidentally, I was in Biology 101 about 25 years ago with 400 students, and we were studying the chemical cross section of sperm. A girl raised her hand and asked "Is that why it tastes so salty?" Could've heard a pin drop.
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If men refused to give oral sex just because of the vaguely repulsive hygiene issues with some women there'd be insurrection.

Take one for the team, just sayin.
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As a guy, I could tell that it was not on my wife's top 100 list of things she liked, so I just told her not to. It's mutual respect.

Incidentally, I was in Biology 101 about 25 years ago with 400 students, and we were studying the chemical cross section of sperm. A girl raised her hand and asked "Is that why it tastes so salty?" Could've heard a pin drop.
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If men refused to give oral sex just because of the vaguely repulsive hygiene issues with some women there'd be insurrection.

Take one for the team, just sayin.
If hygiene is the issue heck naw. I'm a hygiene girl and I must be and feel as clean as possiable or it would bother me. I expect the same cleanliness from my partner and no I don't have OCD.
And I have only giving oral to 2 men in my life and never ever have I swallowed. I allowed the Husband to cum one but I spit it out after that never again. But he didn't seem to care either way really.
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If men refused to give oral sex just because of the vaguely repulsive hygiene issues with some women there'd be insurrection.

Take one for the team, just sayin.
I suppose you could play a zero sum game - if she does not "take one for the team". But lets say she stops giving you oral, and then you retaliate by not doing something for her and then she you and on and on.

I happen to think it is nice to finish up keeping it in the mouth, I am working my way up yo that we tried a few things. But if I felt anger, resentment or that my husband would withdraw something from me, I would probably tend to avoid the whole practice so as to avoid unpleasantness.

But in an atmosphere or fun an laughter while I try, I feel relaxed and I want to do it because he accepts me and is with me in trying.

Just relax and make a humorous thing out of her trying a little at a time. You can make a game of it, she gets a funny card or a star when she can do it. But if you get serious and angry, you back her in a corner and she will resist just to show you she has does not have to take orders from you.

Does that sound reasonable. Be patient and think of things in the long view. Can you try that??
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