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Originally Posted by Blue Skye
The only problem with this is that in a marriage, people will and do change over time. You have to learn to grow together and not let that long list of expectations be your only guide.
I definitely agree. I was being sarcastic when I made that remark, so sorry for that, lol.
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Originally Posted by _alice_
I don't think that the OP is so miserable in his marriage because of this one thing that he's going to leave his wife. It's a matter of working on it, and judging by his posts, it seems like he knows that.
I understand that sex in all forms is important in a marriage, and I get that a man would be disappointed if he had certain expectations that aren't met during his time with his wife. I guess I just don't really agree with it being an "all or nothing" kind of deal. There are a lot of compromises in marriage. And with a little coaxing or encouragement, a person's spouse might become more comfortable and willing to try these sort of things. If not, then the person would decide for themselves whether or not their love for this person they've promised their life to is more important than a desired sex act.
I guess your point, rppearso, is that people shouldn't get married unless they know that the person they're marrying is exactly what they want in a partner. That way they won't have to divorce every single person they've married that didn't meet their long list of expectations.
Thats very true, unfortunatly in my case it was a bait and switch kind of deal. I dont know if thats the OP's case or not.
But I agree, if she does not come around it will be up to him if he wants to tolerate a significant lacking in the bed room or leave. Especially if there are no kids yet then he has a much better chance of the divorce going relativly smoothly.
If he did not make his wishes with her up front then he kind of dropped the ball and if he does divorce he wants to make sure he is more explicit the next time around. Also there does not have to be a laundry list of expectations just becuase sexual performance happens to be an expectation on possibly a very short list. Thats what makes this so sad when a wife does that and it ends in a divorce, is usually there are not alot of other expectations. When I got remarried it was pretty much just the sexual stuff and financial responsibilty otherwise I dont really care if her fav color is the same as mine or if she likes the same music, if we agree in bed and in money the other stuff is largly inconsequensial, I sometimes wonder if women realize that.
Sexual performance is not just another expectation on a long laundry list, its usually a key item on a VERY short list of expectations.
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Originally Posted by Crankshaw
get him to start eating pineapple on a regular basis
This is NOT an old wives tale.... it is 100% accurate, at least with my body it is. Kiwi fruit works great too.
Try this... next time you "clear your inventory" (ejaculate) drink a carton of Pineapple juice (or 2) over the course of the day and the next evening, having 'sweetened' the pot, try to convince her to just taste a little.
It works, I'm telling you. I know its gonna be a GREAT weekend when my wife comes home with a few extra cartons of Pineapple juice!!! Next step... puttin the kids to be early!!
Does she allow you to ejaculate ON her at all? Maybe you can ask if she can just jerk you off at the end (can I type that?) and aim it at or around her lips/face/chest.... thats always fun!
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Originally Posted by soccermom
Let me preface by saying that my partners have always had very good personal hygiene.
I LOVE the smell, the texture, the feel and the taste of a man's penis. His cum? How can I not enjoy it when he explodes in my mouth? The experience, the taste, the act are all part of pleasing my man. As far as flavor? It's always different depending on what he is eating and the individual man. Salty yes, but in a good way.
Just my perspective.
Coming from a soccer mom.... that is hot beyond any literal description I could ever give!!!!
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Originally Posted by INTIMATEONE
Ok I have always fascinated about Cumming in my wife’s mouth, she just will not go for it. sometimes when she is giving me a BJ I just want to do it and cum in her mouth but I am afraid because she has said if you ever do that to her she will never give me head again, that’s a scary thought, I try to sometime wait a little long with hope’s that some will shoot in their will I’m pulling out and maybe she will taste it and think it’s not bad and let me do it another time… do some women enjoy doing this? the taste of it? or just do it because it pleases their man…
I enjoy it mostly because I know he does and that turns me on. The taste is fine to me. I don't always swallow, sometimes I'll ask him to release elsewhere depending on the mood I'm in and the mood of our interaction. I do have a few female friends who refuse to even give head. I haven't read the whole thread but I'd say respect her wishes. You risk blowing her trust in you.
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Ummm I actually like doing it, one it pleases my husband and I want to make him happy and two, I like doing it, I work for a gym and I can tell your your diet is A HUGE FACTOR!!!! Make it taste good for her, lighten up on the salt, drink lots of water if you want her to give you a bj and your feeling self conscious well try to make it plesant for her. Sometimes non sticky water solution fruity lubes are good just trying to pick the right ones, or edible condoms stuff like that I hope that helped!
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I've never had a problem with giving my H a blow job or swallowing. I enjoy going down on him and I swallow because, well..it's convenient to do so and I don't have any problem with it. Fortunately neither of us didn't seem to have any problems with certain "bodily functions" because I can be quite juicy myself when I have an orgasm.
Interestingly enough if I give my H a blow job and swallow he will NOT kiss me. I went to kiss him right after swallowing and he said "No way am I kissing you". I found that to be hysterical and just rolled around laughing my a-ss off!
I gave him a BJ and swallowed last weekend and I don't think he even noticed.
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I'm not a huge fan of this (though luckily my husband isn't either), but i would never give him an ultimatum like that. I think you should talk to her and make it clear that those kinds of threats are not helpful. If this is something that you really want to do, then maybe ask her to try it once and see how she likes it, or offer to do something for her in return that she's maybe fantasized about.
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Originally Posted by rppearso
I dont understand why men even date women who dont swallow. Sucking and swallowing is a pretty standard sex act.
Where do these men come from, they need to grow a brain.
I don't think that swallowing is standard. Not even escorts are expected to swallow their men's gizz. I know too much about that industry. I was a phone sex operator and a receptionist at an escort agency.
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Originally Posted by Mrs.G
I don't think that swallowing is standard. Not even escorts are expected to swallow their men's gizz. I know too much about that industry. I was a phone sex operator and a receptionist at an escort agency.
Sucking is standard though.
Ones I contacted when I was with my ex were willing and willing to do rimming and it was not any more expensive.
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I was a phone sex operator and a receptionist at an escort agency. 
