03-31-2011, 09:18 PM
Join Date: Jun 2010
| | Re: Wife no longer interested in sex...
Your relationship is not good. Good relationships have sex more than once a year. The lack of sex is a symptom of a poor relationship.
You are doing too much. You work 60-70 hours a week. Your wife doesn't work. She should do the housework. You can pick up after yourself in order not to make more work for your wife, but it's not reasonable for you to perform a significant portion of the housework.
Your wife has time for an active social life and you don't. While it's understandable for a housewife to have more leisure time than her husband, it's unreasonable for the husband to carry her burden and have no leisure time.
When you act like the help, you get treated like the help. Would your wife want to make out with the maid?
To see if you get a reaction from your wife, go out with her to a place you're likely to get some attention from women. You don't have to flirt back very hard, but see if your wife gets jealous. A slightly jealous wife can be pretty affectionate.
I also would stop reassuring her. If she knows that you are committed to never leaving her, then she doesn't have to try to keep you around. Why not treat you like crap? You'll take it. She should believe that you have a limit.