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Re: Recently found - sex vids - and guess who's the star?? WTF?
This ain't flattery! Be sure to tell your attorney what he has done. I really hope none of the videos have already made their way to the internet sites. Do you think they have?
Re: Recently found - sex vids - and guess who's the star?? WTF?
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Originally Posted by PHTlump
"my body is his body." Another poster disputes that very concept.
Listen, I am very sorry that I made the stupid comments I made, I think these thoughts of mine has caused all this uproar. When I did so, It was with the intention of thinking this husband was going to use them for PRIVATE USE only, my mind was not jumping to him using them online, and what that Represented - probably should have been (like the other posters) but wasn't when I posted.
I do not even know where you do such a thing as that!! I agree with everyone that is pathetically wrong, and he can not be at all trusted -if he did such a thing. I am not against making such vidoes , but I am against any form of hiding and lying.
Re: Recently found - sex vids - and guess who's the star?? WTF?
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Originally Posted by Sakaye
He's never asked. I guess I don't know how to feel. In a slight sense I guess Im somewhat flattered, but more than that, I feel violated. My body is for my husband only and not to video, even if he says its only for him. Our libidos match nicely, we're both active in the bedroom. He could have me whenever he wants, but that doesn't mean I want to be filmed. Its degrading and embarrassing. Posted via Mobile Device
How so?...in your view, in my is a way to keep sex exciting....think about it, by having your own videos you can get horny at looking at yoursefl making love to your wife...or by just lookint at your wife and everything she becomes when making love to you..in my case is like looking at my wife and I think only caw she is so hot....is like seeing my wife for the very first time, is exciting and just bring us closer together....what is the problem in wanting others telling you how hot is your wife, as long as our faces dont show....is all good
Re: Recently found - sex vids - and guess who's the star?? WTF?
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Originally Posted by marcopoly69
How so?...in your view, in my is a way to keep sex exciting....think about it, by having your own videos you can get horny at looking at yoursefl making love to your wife...or by just lookint at your wife and everything she becomes when making love to you..in my case is like looking at my wife and I think only caw she is so hot....is like seeing my wife for the very first time, is exciting and just bring us closer together....what is the problem in wanting others telling you how hot is your wife, as long as our faces dont show....is all good
You really think it's OK to post a video of your wife online without her permission, to boost your own ego?
Re: Recently found - sex vids - and guess who's the star?? WTF?
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Originally Posted by Sakaye
I recently posted the "porn perception" thread. I was so very concerned with my husbands recent delve into porn etc. Now I think I have a bigger worry. . . .
Last night I borrowed his laptop. Im not a snooper, but find things because idk if he's absent minded or if he's wanting me to find them. Although I find it hard to believe the latter could be true. On it his video editing software was open, which is not unusual as my H does videos, and works in the film industry. I took a closer look at the open frames and OMFG, he has been videoing us having sex. I don't know WHEN this started, but there are a bunch of them. I couldn't believe it, my mouth just hung open as I looked at em. Holy ****!! was all I could keep saying over and over.
I shut the laptop right away. WTF? Now Im worried he's going to edit them to be uploaded onto those sites he just recently joined. Posted via Mobile Device
Relax....just talk to him but dont get super mad at him...he gets very horny when he is getting the shots and you are in it....remember one of those sessions, dont you remember your husband super horny?....is what we want ....to feel alive, excited....and you should be happy that your husband finds you sexy and hot....the problem is not telling you that he is recording you....as for the online thing, I would tell him that if he ever post anything, that you only want to make sure your face is covered so nobody can tell is you...othewise, what is the demage if nobody knows you and your husband receives a buch of wow men your wife is hot....dont you think will help your husband to appriciate you ever more??
Re: Recently found - sex vids - and guess who's the star?? WTF?
Marc,
This would be flattering to her if he had actually ASKED first. Add to that the fact that he's also looking at porn on his own and you'll start to see that this guy has a problem.
EVERYONE - married or not - has a right to privacy. Mess with that privacy, and you'll no longer be trusted.
If your wife took a video of you taking a really big nasty $hit and posted it on youtube without your consent, would that be OK?
If your wife posted some kind of transcript on FB of all the things you've said while making love - would THAT be OK? What if she made it into a "Top Ten" list that most people would think was funny - except for maybe you? Kind of like when Prince Charles told Camilla he wanted to be a tampon so he could get up inside her. I'm sure you've said things in the heat of the moment that you wouldn't want broadcasted without your knowledge and consent.
I personally don't want to be videotaped doing ANYTHING in the privacy of my own home WITHOUT CONSENT.
Re: Recently found - sex vids - and guess who's the star?? WTF?
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Originally Posted by michzz
This kind of invasion of privacy is a felony crime in many states that if convicted, a person faces years in prison for doing it.
That her face may be photoshopped out is kind of irrelevant.
It's offensive on so many levels.
There is no consent, it poisons the essence of being intimate with your spouse.
Word. Expectation of privacy within marriage is a right. It isn't debatable. What I do in my bedroom is done in private. What I do in my bathroom is done in private. I have the expectation that those things aren't going to be filmed for somebody elses pleasure, internet or no internet. Ya wanna make a film, cool. Ask first.
Re: Recently found - sex vids - and guess who's the star?? WTF?
Some of you people are jumping to conclusions (he's going to put it on a porn site, call the police, divorce him, arrested for a felony, years in prison). SERIOUSLY? Sounds like we have some man haters up in here.
I try to photograph or record my wife all the time (in the shower, getting out of the shower, naked in bed, etc). It pisses her off, but that's what I do .
Do you have a copy? If not get a copy and let him know that now you both have a copy. Mutually assured self-destruction. Isn't that what they called it back in the cold war?
How bout if you hand cuffed him to the bed then brought the camera out for your own little session. Didn't some guy do that to Joe Francis (Girls Gone Wild producer)? Broke into his house and then videotaped himself sodomizing Francis.
Re: Recently found - sex vids - and guess who's the star?? WTF?
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Originally Posted by Mike188
Some of you people are jumping to conclusions (he's going to put it on a porn site, call the police, divorce him, arrested for a felony, years in prison). SERIOUSLY? Sounds like we have some man haters up in here.
I try to photograph or record my wife all the time (in the shower, getting out of the shower, naked in bed, etc). It pisses her off, but that's what I do .
Do you have a copy? If not get a copy and let him know that now you both have a copy. Mutually assured self-destruction. Isn't that what they called it back in the cold war?
How bout if you hand cuffed him to the bed then brought the camera out for your own little session. Didn't some guy do that to Joe Francis (Girls Gone Wild producer)? Broke into his house and then videotaped himself sodomizing Francis.
You sound like quite the catch Mike. filming your wife even though it pisses her off. weird.
How is it man hating to state it's against the law and wrong to distribute your wives images without permission?
Re: Recently found - sex vids - and guess who's the star?? WTF?
Wow, I believe that is soooo wrong and would feel disgusted.
The only thing even close to this that I have heard of is a relative of mine who sent her hubby a sexy pic of herself (no nudity but barely) and he was "so proud of her" that he showed his co-workers. She was disgusted, pissed, and never goes to her husbands work 'cuz she doesn't wanna be seen by the co-workers.
She felt like a piece of meat that was being wagged in front of hungry dogs. Yuck.
Re: Recently found - sex vids - and guess who's the star?? WTF?
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Originally Posted by Mike188
Some of you people are jumping to conclusions (he's going to put it on a porn site, call the police, divorce him, arrested for a felony, years in prison). SERIOUSLY? Sounds like we have some man haters up in here.
I try to photograph or record my wife all the time (in the shower, getting out of the shower, naked in bed, etc). It pisses her off, but that's what I do .
Do you have a copy? If not get a copy and let him know that now you both have a copy. Mutually assured self-destruction. Isn't that what they called it back in the cold war?
How bout if you hand cuffed him to the bed then brought the camera out for your own little session. Didn't some guy do that to Joe Francis (Girls Gone Wild producer)? Broke into his house and then videotaped himself sodomizing Francis.
You keep doing things even though you know it pisses her off? Whats your payoff? It makes you feel good to piss her off? Wow now there is a real man. I hope she wakes up.
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