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Old 04-04-2011, 10:05 AM   #31 (permalink)
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Syrum and Jamison (and everyone else),

Here is an example of how people can jump to conclusions if they don't have all the facts and . My wife steps out of the shower. I jump out from behind the corner with my iPhone and snap a pic. She "gets mad" and chases me for the phone. We play around a little laughing and then I delete it. We have fun with it.

And then you post something like, " It makes you feel good to piss her off? Wow now there is a real man. I hope she wakes up." or "You sound like quite the catch Mike. filming your wife even though it pisses her off. weird.".

"Wow now there's a real man". Seriously? Do you think maybe you over-reacted a little? Some of you people are knee-jerk reactionaries. Maybe you should ask a few questions and gather some more info before you spout off.
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Some of you people are knee-jerk reactionaries. Maybe you should ask a few questions and gather some more info before you spout off.
I'll put it more concisely ...

Cease the personal attacks and baiting.
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Maybe, just maybe, you worded your response the way you did so people could only jump to the conclusion they did.
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Old 04-04-2011, 10:17 AM   #34 (permalink)
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Syrum and Jamison (and everyone else),

Here is an example of how people can jump to conclusions if they don't have all the facts and . My wife steps out of the shower. I jump out from behind the corner with my iPhone and snap a pic. She "gets mad" and chases me for the phone. We play around a little laughing and then I delete it. We have fun with it.

And then you post something like, " It makes you feel good to piss her off? Wow now there is a real man. I hope she wakes up." or "You sound like quite the catch Mike. filming your wife even though it pisses her off. weird.".

"Wow now there's a real man". Seriously? Do you think maybe you over-reacted a little? Some of you people are knee-jerk reactionaries. Maybe you should ask a few questions and gather some more info before you spout off.
I think most people thought your comment was relevant to the OP's post.

Why post a situation that is totally different than what is being discussed?

There is quite a difference between you playfully taking a picture that your wife is aware of that allows you guys to 'goof around with each other', than this guy secretly taking videos of them having sex.
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Old 04-04-2011, 10:19 AM   #35 (permalink)
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Syrum and Jamison (and everyone else),

Here is an example of how people can jump to conclusions if they don't have all the facts and . My wife steps out of the shower. I jump out from behind the corner with my iPhone and snap a pic. She "gets mad" and chases me for the phone. We play around a little laughing and then I delete it. We have fun with it.

And then you post something like, " It makes you feel good to piss her off? Wow now there is a real man. I hope she wakes up." or "You sound like quite the catch Mike. filming your wife even though it pisses her off. weird.".

"Wow now there's a real man". Seriously? Do you think maybe you over-reacted a little? Some of you people are knee-jerk reactionaries. Maybe you should ask a few questions and gather some more info before you spout off.
No I don't think I over reacted. You did say you did it to piss her off.

Anyway....to the OP, bottom line he did something without your knowledge, he did it for himself which is selfish IMO.
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Old 04-04-2011, 11:13 AM   #36 (permalink)
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Syrum and Jamison (and everyone else),

Here is an example of how people can jump to conclusions if they don't have all the facts and . My wife steps out of the shower. I jump out from behind the corner with my iPhone and snap a pic. She "gets mad" and chases me for the phone. We play around a little laughing and then I delete it. We have fun with it.

And then you post something like, " It makes you feel good to piss her off? Wow now there is a real man. I hope she wakes up." or "You sound like quite the catch Mike. filming your wife even though it pisses her off. weird.".

"Wow now there's a real man". Seriously? Do you think maybe you over-reacted a little? Some of you people are knee-jerk reactionaries. Maybe you should ask a few questions and gather some more info before you spout off.
I think you don't understand the issues - it a problem for women not men to have pic of their bodies floating around. There is no shame attached to men who post or pass around to friends unauthorized pic or vids of ex gf and wives, there should be but there is such a rush to heap criticism on the woman in the vid that the illegal unethical behavior of the poster is never entertained.

You are playing a foolish game by taking pics of your wife when she does not want you to do so. I think it is unconscionable.

You may feel uncomfortable with the strong feed back but the reasons are clear to most men who honor their wife's right to refuse to have a pic of her body taken.

Most men are empathetic enough to know that if it were to get into the wrong hands that would hurt his wife. Rather than risk that, he foregoes the small titillation of a naked pic to protect her. Do you get it now?

If you continue to sneak around and do as you please against her wishes, you may eventually be excluded from any interaction with her in an unclothed state because you can not be trusted.

The biggest hurdle for women to be sexually free and engaged is trust, any violation is a sure way to make her close down and exclude you as too selfish with your own pleasure at her expense.

I think you are being paid a favor - your wife should lock the door to the bathroom and sleep in a looked room since she can't trust you to honor her wishes. If you don't want to hear then keep doing what you are doing and good luck.
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Yeah this is pretty disgusting, like everyone else has said. Get rid of him - he obviously has no morals whatsoever.
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