venis

This is an old post from 2008
Porn Question for the ladies

Ok let's say your hubby loves to watch porn and this get's you mad.

I am wondering how many of you woman would be willing to say this to your husband.

OK Honey, you have to get rid of your Porn collection. BUT I am willing to make our OWN porn collection if you wish to view that only. You go to ABC website and pick out the costumes and figure out the scenerio's you wanted (role playing) and we will do them with these limitations.

I like to view porn, but I find our home movies 100X more exciting then the "professionals"

I think every couple should do their own collection, if gives you a chance to be naughty, yet welll within your comfort range, your hubby can view some hot "porn" of his wife. Part of the fun is the wife acting out the scenes.

Just wondering how many of you women would be willing to do this for their man or for themselves.


Wow I was scanning older post and I saw this it should be brought back to the top of the list, and women you should see the value in this persons suggestions. I truly believe this is one good way to solve the PORN issue in your home. Men are men and I’m one of them I don’t claim to be perfect and have all the answers and I certainly have screwed up over the 30 plus years of marriage. Yes my wife and I have created home vid’s and I love watching them. It was away to relive some of the hot spots in our sex life. Unfortunately it stopped and she said she was to gross to put on vid’s any more. This is where women make a big mistake.
Husbands/ Men have this thing about their women they want them more the most women want or need this type of thing. I would watch our home vid.s all the time it made me feel good to see her and all the kinky things we shared.
I wont share more at this time ,but wait and see if the women out there are will to say. Honey go get the camera and lets have some fun, and if they ever get on the without my permission I’ll xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx.
So let see the response and maybe we wont see so many porn issues here.
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Catherine602

But what if a woman does not want to be video tapped? It's either internet porn or a performance by the wife. What if the woman did not feel she signed an acting contract when she took her vows? What next?

This is not a solution to the porn problem it's an extension of it. Why is the onus on the woman to solve the problem by exposing herself? That's a bonus for the hubby for his problem but where is it written that his wife has to do this. Because she has the misfortune to get married to a man with a porn addiction? Here is another requirement for a woman who wants to marry, she has to be prepared to let the hubby video tape her to keep him happy. Since 50% of marriages end in divorce, the risk that the video will end up in the hands of someone who cares nothing about her wellbeing is considerable.

After all of the scandals of ex's posting videos to humiliate women, I think any women who allows a man to have control of sex videos of her have to be crazy. Mothers tell your daughters. My advice - never allow yourself to be video tapped, old bf and ex husbands and even husbands post them. There was no criticism of the men for being less that men and violating a womens who trusted them by betraying them.

There is no rush to inact laws to protect women who are betrayed. That to me means that our culture is still bent on shaming women for having sex. There is no shame directed where it belongs at the men who do this. It not worth it, even in a loving relationship, women need to protect themselves from being used.

You never know what the future will bring, when the ultimate weapon will be used, exposure to public scrutiny by a man who knows society will punish the woman but not him for being dishonorable.. There are no laws, niether judicial or code of conduct, that prevents a jealous ex or perverted H from posting a video.

If you like to video, keep total control, never give your images to anyone, he can watch in your presence on your computer. Giving some man control of sex videos is like giving a charge card to a teen, the temptation is too great.
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Blanca

venis most of the time women have an issue with their h watching porn because he doesnt want to have sex with them.

But speaking of "men being men", I wonder how well it would work out for "women to be women". I used to have a penpal friend, male, whom Id never actually met nor even seen a picture of, who offered to give me money and gifts all the time. I wonder how my H would have felt about me taking it.

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Runs like Dog

I'm sure my wife would consider it a moral outrage and a sin against something or other. She has little to zero interest in sex. That's not the point.

827Aug

As A Warning..... Let's stick to this topic with our responses.

SimplyAmorous

I would be more than willing to please my husband in this way. Let's go Shopping! And we have done this, except I used Ebay.

I don't mind him looking at a little porn though, so maybe I am not qualified to answer this question

reachingshore

Personally I have no problem with my husband watching porn. I watch it too. We have quite a few private videos of ourselves and tons of pictures.

Private sex tapes/photos is a complicated issue. Not only a woman has to trust the man, the man himself has to be trustworthy. If I'd thought for a second that there's a chance he would post it somewhere or show it to someone, there's no way I'd do this. Of course in turn that begs the question whether he'd try to tape us in secret and what would my reaction be to that then.

But let's say for the sake of the argument that I am against my husband watching porn. He is trustworthy and thus I trust him. Then yes - I'd go with the deal.

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canidothis

I have actually tried the home video suggestion and made one of myself for him and pics etc. and it didn't work. But after all the issues we've had with this we finally figured things out. All this time..he was afriad to talk to me openly because of how I approached him about it. Which I didnht even realize but he said he felt ashamed and guilty and like I was accusing him. We sat down and talked things through. We went an entire week without looking at porn. So, I compromised with him and told him if he could keep it under control and we watched it together or if he is masterbating. No extra sneak peaks numerous times a day. He even said he'll keep the internet off his phone to help me trust him about the situation. Hopefully it works out ok for us...this is only day 1 since our talk lol
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venis

So you tried something thats great and you figured out something that worked for you even better. Now thats what we are talking about keep trying things.
so if the home vid and pic arn't your thing try putting on a barny costume if it works for you both
Remember all sex start in your mind! the good the bad and the ugly

KathyGriffinFan

My hubby and I watch porn, in fact I usually have to make him watch it (I'm sure he's just playing hard to get tho) and we have our own private stash.

Since I don't have a problem with it, I wouldn't force him to only watch the videos of us.

How about doing what Charlotte in "Sex & the City" did and get him a subscription to an adult magazine but tape pics of your head onto the womens head and only leave their body visible?
Just a thought.

reachingshore

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venis

Reading the replies in this thread I find it most interesting that each reply has a different concept of the question. When I saw this topic my intent was to provide options for some of the readers. Not to anger them or cause them pain as a few have expressed. We all need to learn to look at thing with an open mind. We don’t need to change our moral position or compass on life. A lot of the readers here are stuck in a rut.
That is why the topic of PORN is one so interesting and most read on this site. I would like to help you think differently about thing just because we all were taught how and what to think as we travel through life most of us don't just site and ponder what we ourself think out side that box.
Porn or lets call it a display of sexual action. When most of us view this we our self are stimulated and I think we should be.
“women have an issue with their h watching porn because he doesn’t want to have sex with them”
Wow If this is true I’m way off base, but personally I would have to say if a man is using porn not so he can present him self to his partner then he or they have issues.
If my wife came to me and suggested we get naughty in front of Macys window I would be all over it. Not because of the wild experience but just because she want to make love to me. Porn can be a tool if women want to use it that way. Drugs are a tool if used correctly.
Open up have fun use the thing in life to make you happy and sex makes me happy.

HelloooNurse

I would prefer my husband to watch porn, quite honestly.

venis

The reason you would rather him watch is why?

MarriedWifeInLove

Been there, done that Venis.

Didn't make ANY difference.

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