There is something called "Tantra Sex
" that does NOT focus on Orgasms, something we have been taught & retaught & expected in all of our encounters with ease.
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I read this book after my divorce, while sitting around wondering if I'd ever have another orgasm. I was taking SSRI medications and in intense therapy in recovery from a very unhappy, marriage. The SSRIs both cut back my sex drive, AND made it nearly impossible to orgasm normally. I was horrified to think about what was in store for me. I intended to taper off the SSRIs, but had read that the side effects may continue for quite some time. (And they didů). I have no doubt the SSRIs actually saved my life,
but I had a bit of a problem.
I read the book, and was able to call upon the techniques when I started dating the woman that became my new wife.
The tantric-inspired shared breathing, close hugs, intimate massages were, IMHO, some of the MOST erotic things I've ever encountered. As we simply hugged, face to face, and slowly breathed in and out together, sharing the warm air and aromas as we ever so slowly inhaled with our noses, I was amazed at how intimate the experience was. I have NO doubt that the process was incredibly important for our bonding, and involved exchanging tons of pheromones. I remember the first night we spent together staring at each other and asking "What just happened?"
It was months before I actually experienced an orgasm, and this was months after I quit the SSRIs. I am still at having a rate of around 20%, if I were to actually waste time counting.
The tantric techniques, and a wonderfully understanding, no pressure lover, made me really cherish the entire time we spend together intimately. And when we DO have an orgasm, the build up makes them mind-blowing and the most intense ever.
I don't receive a commission on this book, but I do recommend it highly.