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I just recently went to a strip club with my wife and a friend who was recently divorced, it was a celebration for his divorce. Me and my wife just sat at the bar having drinks, talking and enjoying the show, while my wife and I didn't participate in anything we had a good time enjoying the atmosphere and talking about the strippers dance moves or the choice of clothes. Overall I would rather be at a strip club with my wife then with my buddies.
Figure this one, I have never liked the Bar scene, I am not at all Bi curious, I have never been drunk a day in my life, nor do I smoke but I really enjoy a Strip Club. At least the one we went too. I am not sure others would be the same. It was just so much fun. My husband only gets one beer the whole night. He & my good male buddy has told me it might be dangerous for me to get drunk, not sure what would come out of my mouth, I sometimes say too much as it is.
Figure this one, I have never liked the Bar scene, I am not at all Bi curious, I have never been drunk a day in my life, nor do I smoke but I really enjoy a Strip Club. At least the one we went too. I am not sure others would be the same. It was just so much fun. My husband only gets one beer the whole night. He & my good male buddy has told me it might be dangerous for me to get drunk, not sure what would come out of my mouth, I sometimes say too much as it is.
I never like bar or club atmosphere either. They smoke, they drink, and they are loud!
But I go there for other kind of fun. I go there because I am curious!
Neither of us smoke, we really don't like to be around people who smoke(now they are not allowed to smoke in public areas, so it is not a problem anymore). My husband drinks a little, I don't drink at all, never understand why people like to drink, alcohol burns my nose and my tongue. Dislike people who take drugs, never touched drugs because we know they are poisons.
But still, we like to go to strip clubs and watch shows!
It doesn't make you a prude, we all vary in levels of curiousity. I went to one with my Husband, it was actually my idea, and I loved it, but I know it's not for everyone, and who are they to judge? If it's not something you're in to you wouldn't enjoy it.
But I go there for other kind of fun. I go there because I am curious!
I am CURIOUS about pretty much everything, you only live once in this life. I was TOO "prudish" in my youth & much of my marraige so this kind of entertainment was pretty out of character for me. Just refreshing to get away from all of that - that hindering mindset. Some would say I went overboard!
I just enjoy "watching people", how they act, what turns them on, their reactions. It is true when you get a few beers in some, you see them come alive & not always in such a good way, but an obknoxiousness comes through. Always glad those ones were not with our party. We have sat by tables, pretty calm & withdrawn in the early eve, give them a few hours, they were whooping & hollering.
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Originally Posted by greenpearl
Dislike people who take drugs, never touched drugs because we know they are poisons.
The most I have ever done & I knew what I was doing, I tried marijuana, a few puffs with friends once, I purposely wanted to see if it had any effect on me. Here, I couldnt stop laughing, that is what it did, we was near a small creek & I fell into it laughing so hard. Never cared to try it again.
My husband and I have been talking about going to a club in the last few weeks. I worry that HE will be the one to become overly jealous when he sees how aroused I may become, the attention I may get from the dancers/men, etc. (I say "may" because I have never been to a club before much less have a woman rubbing all over me but I am extremely attracted to woman and this is a fantasy we have shared together.) I am excited for the possible opportunity to share my husband in this way and although this is something that he has brought up (he has even asked me to get a sitter for this Friday just for this purpose) I just want to enjoy the company of another women with my husband and have him enjoy a woman as well. (I told him he can pick out the dancer(s) he would want for me thinking that might help ease his mind.)
How do I make sure he is comfortable? Should I just avoid getting any lap dances and focus it on him and see where it leads?
I suppose a man could turn the question around and ask how does he make his wife feel comfortable if she is unsure of the strip club situation?
I guess the response is for farmerswife, not the original poster. You should have started a new thread.
Anyway, we have been to several strip clubs both male and female, we have been to ones in LAS and LA, were the best ones. Some on the east coast too, which weren’t too good. Anyway, it’s a phase that we are now past. I have been married for 13 years and it’s been a fantasy of mine to have my wife get a lap dance by a female dancer and make out with her, wow, that’s so hot. My wife wouldn’t do it at the time, but she will look and say which dancer she thinks is cute and has a good body, ect. I have watched her get lap dances by male dancers, NP. I don’t get jealous in a strip club, these people have perfect bodies and we are just 1 in a million, so I doubt your husband would get jealous. And the fact that you are into girls, your husband may just cum in his pants, so go and enjoy and juts to be sure, include him, in some way.
I got called a prude today, by a relative who lets her hubby go to strip joints. Apparently, I'm a prude because I'm not comfortable with my husband going to these clubs
I'm just curious as to how you guys out there feel about it. Are you cool with your spouse visiting these joints? Does he go by himself or with you? Do you feel that this adds to your sex life or is it purely for entertainment?
Thanks!
Not at all cool with My husband going to strip clubs.
The idea of him giving our money to a random woman is what bothers me the most.
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Not at all cool with My husband going to strip clubs.
The idea of him giving our money to a random woman is what bothers me the most.
I totally agree. This is thankfully something I don't have to worry about, as the nearest club like that is probably at least 2 hours away! I know if I told my husband I was going to go watch Chippendales or something similar, he would not approve of it either.
I've actually surprised my husband for his birthday taking him to one after we had dinner/drinks with some friends. We had a lot of fun AT the club but even more AFTER!
I've actually surprised my husband for his birthday taking him to one after we had dinner/drinks with some friends. We had a lot of fun AT the club but even more AFTER!
It's definitely sets the mode for some kinky carefree fun afterwards!
Sometimes we don't even make it home and we use the car instead!
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