Originally Posted by KathyGriffinFan View Post
I got called a prude today, by a relative who lets her hubby go to strip joints. Apparently, I'm a prude because I'm not comfortable with him going to these clubs
I'm just curious as to how you guys out there feel about it. Are you cool with your spouse visiting these joints? Does he go by himself or with you? Do you feel that this adds to your sex life or is it purely for entertainment?
I would NEVER
call anyone a prude for not allowing their husbands to go to a Strip Club. Oh my NO, that is VERY RUDE. I would guess over 90% of wives would be against this & feel uncomfortable for a variety of reasons that are legitimate and/or belief based.
I look at myself as much more "open" than many wives would be in this area (right now) probably because of 3 things.... 1)
My recent mid life crisis (which was all sexual in nature) brought great interest & intrege to seeing & checking out things we never did in our youth. 2
Husband has NEVER experienced a Strip Club, our 1st time going was 2 yrs ago, we had been married 19 yrs-he was 45. His flavor of porn has always been women dancing & poles. After I had a night out with the girls to see the Chippendales , I seen no reason I should deprive him of this experience when a friend asked us to go.
I ALWAYS go with my husband, he wants me too, and said he would not go without me. I found I enjoyed watching the dance moves, checking out their outfits, and when they give a bachelor his turn in the chair , it is a HOOT ! I haven't laughed that hard in a long time. The Club we go to is one of the nicest ones in the state, no touching, grinding, rules are carefully followed & enforced. They encourage married couples to go together, we are not the only ones. 3)
I feel I can do this easily -because of the way my husbans IS
, how he has always treated me, and our comfortableness in all sexual things. If he had an addicting personality, if he was a major flirt, if he had been unfaithful in the past, if we were having any marital problems, if our sex life was lacking, I can say with honesty - I would NOT sit well with him going.
It is definitely entertainment and we have had FUN. We have made a few friends there, a single friend is going out with one of the girls, last we spoke. It's been interesting, but I know this is a phase, and it will pass, we havent been there in 6 months now. Might go back, might not.
The 1st 2 times we went, he was REALLY aroused when we got home. For me, this was HEAVEN as I had the much higher sex drive at the time, I told him if this is how he is going to be when he gets home, we can go every week! After the 3rd trip, the allure wore off. I would say it HAS enhanced our experience.