Lea2407

I think that it's great your husband is so respectful of you that he worries about those things. My husband is like that a lot too, where he is always worried about trying something that I won't like or doing something that I could be offended by.

The degrading thing is really an issue for a lot of men I think because they get told that so much is supposedly degrading for women sexually. However, that is only true if the woman doesn't like it, but it's hard to make them understand this when they've had years and years of people telling them otherwise. I've even seen a lot of that in this thread in the short amount of time I've been here.

I would say just tell him. It already sounds like you can talk about these subjects at least somewhat. I'm sure it would probably be a turn on for him as well. I don't know many guys that wouldn't like that. If you don't want to just bring it up out of the clear blue, try it during the act. When it gets closer to the end, move his hands to your head and let him know what you want him to do and how much you like it. I doubt you'll hear any complaints, especially once he sees how it affects you.

heartsbeating

I agree about telling him the idea of this turns you on. If you're uneasy broaching the subject, and if you were kneeling for him, you can also grab his buttocks and hips and demonstrate through motion that that's what you want - pull his hips towards you and back. You'll be able to transition from moving your mouth on him, to him naturally taking over with the encouragement of this. I'm sure you'll have something to talk about after that. Hope that makes sense? And I hope these suggestions are of help.

Catherine602

Lea I am beginning to realize from readings that some men feel shame at the nature of their sex drive . My husband is not verbally expressive about emotions but he communicates indirectly by actions. I think the sense of shame may be manifest by his care not to shame me.

He also had a wild period in his teens. We grew up in the same neighborhood so I know what he was like. I think he feels guilty about that period of his life.
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Catherine602

Heart - he usually sits. I have been thinking of maybe playing a game - writing things we would like each other to do. . I think if I can write down what I want would be better. Maybe I can ease into letting know that I have fantasies. I honestly did not have many fantasies before so it will surprise him that I have even one.

I was also thinking of telling him that I have a neck ache and I need him to move.
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Lea2407

I think making a game out of it sounds like a fantastic idea! You could have a number of different things that you each have to fill out, like what you find sexiest about the other person, favorite sexual position, wildest fantasy etc. This really sounds like a great way for a couple to open up and communicate without the awkwardness of finding the right time to bring the subjects up.

lastradas

Quite frankly, if you have such a dislike for it, I don't think it'll change. And I honestly don't see why it has to. I honestly don't understand ( and I acknowledge that people have different views on that) what is so sexy about swallowing large quantities of other people's body fluids.
I remember the first time I did it, I almost passed out because it was so disgusting, the consistency, the taste, simply everything. And I didn't even swallow it, I just let him come in my mouth and when he was done I ran to sink, spit it out and spent the next 5 minutes brushing my teeth...*very sexy* :-)

I want to see the guy who would want to swallow an equal amount of women's secretion - and again: I am not talking about the regular wetness (comparable to a bit of pre-cum) when you get aroused but full loads of women's secretions. I'm sure there is some people who don't mind, but I am sure there is an equally large number of men who wouldn't do that.

I can understand having my feelings hurt if my partner was uncomfortable going down on me because of a little bit of pre-cum (or the equivalent for women) but I'd never want him to do anything that completely grosses him/her out to the point where sex would even become unenjoyable and s/he avoids it.

Just my $.02

nader

a couple thoughts:

Your husband is a really lucky guy knowing that you care this much and will go to these lengths to make him happy. It's likely that he will appreciate the effort and doesn't want to see you uncomfortable. Personally for me, spitting is just as good as swallowing.. it's the sensation of finishing that way that makes it special, what happens to the 'byproduct' afterwards is incidental. I am honestly happy to be getting bjs at all!

Do you drink very much? at the risk of being too vulgar for a thread about oral sex, it seems like this would be easier if you had a little buzz going, just enough to lower some of your inhibitions.. and if you aren't averse to shots you could always chase it with a nice shot of tequila/rum/shot of your choice!

I'mInLoveWithMyHubby

I really like ID Juicy Lube mint. I get sick to my stomach from the semen. The lube is awesome. My hubby now gets oral several times a week.
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annagarret

WOW .....I usually swallow but I think I will try that sometimes, hopefully he will think it looks hot.

annagarret

If it means a lot to your husband just do it. Try not to over think it. To see the smile on his face is worth any distaste to you of his semen. I think it is worth it.