So_in_love

yes lol

Catherine602

I think it depends on the reason, if it is sexual disatisfaction then the husband can learn about female sexuality, if it's too many demands for acts that are geared towards the man's pleasure along with a relationship that is unsatisfactory then work on the relationship and rebalance sex so that both are satisfied. If it is resentment then find out why and fix it. It may be affair find out and decide if you stay or go. It may be shear exhaustion or ignorance. Some women think that sex is just a diversion and is not needed and consider their husbands sex drive a lack of control.

I think that the majority of the time it's resentment. It is common for some men not to listen to their wives or to do things because they think that a request from their wife is an attempt to control them or cramp their style. They don't realize the repercussions of dismissing their wives concerns. She may consider it a simple request.

if I know it seems that sexual starvation is intractable. But this forum offers a skewered view the people who are not successful are here, not the successful ones..The fantasy gone wild is so be intractable, , the woman can stay with the man if there are reasons to do so, money and children or get rid of him. If he genuinely works on his problem of foolish expectations and is able to establish a loving caring relationship with his wife, it miight work. But I suspect, like other sexual fixations, the desire will not go away. It may be replaced by other degrading extreme requests.
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Mrs.G

I cherish Mr.G to no end. Yet I have wanted to try a threesome with another woman. I couldn't go down on her though-ugh! It's just something I want to try with my husband.
He has no interest in it, despite me bringing it up many times. He does not want anyone else, so I respect that and shut up about it.
The taking pictures and posting them is creepy. Why do you let him put you on display?
I am the porn watcher in the marriage, but it's cunnilingus, man/woman porn. No threesomes, just my favorite sex act. *smile*
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Dalayla

I think there is no right or wrong when it comes to a couple. We set our own rules. My first husband (together for 8 years) would never go fot even ffm, he thought that it was degrading for his wife. My present husband (together 1 year) is very open. We watch porn together, we fantasize together, no limits at all. If it really gets to the actual thing, then we might both not want it. Or it might be a great experience. It doesn't really matter as long as we fully trust eachother. We are crazy about eachother and non of us can imagine sex without the other one in it. I personally like to watch and thinking about my husband in that manner, is a great turn on. In the begining I was kidna concerned, cause I am a jelous type, why I do not have hard feeling towards threesomes of any kind. I realized that its because my husband adores me, and he is confident. I feel that I am the most desired woman and he doesn't need anyone else. I feel just the same. So basically, the rest is just secondary. If we both want it - then we'll try it, it's all good. To me, it's better to do things together, instead of secretly desiring them.

marriedfor27years

most of these are correct. once several years ago I watched as a male doctor gave my wife a breast exam. It turned me on however if he had stated making love to her I would have punched him and slapped her and left. or maybe just left. point is there is fantacy and real life. if you get the 2 mixed up there will be trouble. he may be gay or maybe he has already been with someone else. or it come be he is just mixed up. that said you should not have let him post the pictures. do not do a 3 way. it will end badly. if it ends because you will not do it at least you will not have the 3 way to feel bad about. bottom line. if he stops looking at porn you may be able to save this, but people rarely change. it just a fact of life.

EvanderS

I used to be in some sorted lifestyles and played around with Polyamory. I'm currently in a monogamous lifestyle with my wife... I met her at a party in the lifestyle. I've had friends also in and out of the lifestyle.

ANYWAYS... I'm pretty sure that people who want to see their wives have sex with other men don't love their wives any less. There are a lot of reasons for this... sometimes they are simply wired to share. Sometimes they have control issues and are exploring directing their wives to do things. Sometimes they are bored with the same old. Sometimes they want adventure. Sometimes they simply want to get another perspective on a physical act that they can't quite comprehend. Sometimes they are bisexual and unwilling to admit it. Sometimes they feel that their wives are a little to conservative and they want to give them new experiences. Sometimes they are just perverts... creative and filled with energy and a lust for life. Some are voyeurs. Most of the time it is a mixture.

Anyways... I doubt it is a lack of love. If it was... he wouldn't have been vulnerable with you and told you something he probably found very scary to admit.

BTW... I've gone to swingers clubs quite a bit and I've seen women terrified. But once they realize how much power they have... they often have a lot of fun to the dismay of their husband (People often go to swingers parties and don't have sex with other people).

Stonewall

Everyone has fantasies but most of the time fantasies are better left as just fantasies when they involve another person. You can play with a fantasy verbally with your spouse and have fun with it that way but unless you are geared for an open relationship don't allow yourself to be dragged into it. It could destroy your marriage.

WhiteRabbit

MFM... In my fantasies it is two hunky gorgeous hung men focused on little old me! Sole focus is pleasing me and massaging me...like I'm a powerful goddess, the most sexy, beautiful woman they've ever touched. it pleases them soooooo much to make me orgasm over and over they orgasm just from the happiness and satisfaction of being with me. (my fantasies are so selfish...oh so different from real life!)

Lol ok back to reality...

MFM in real life...not ok unless you aren't in a relationship with either of them and you've all been tested of course... Bottom line, everyone draws the line somewhere. Make sure your mate is respectful of the line and ok with coloring within that line,
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annagarret

If your husband has been jealous and controlling in the past, he might be thinking of a "gang bang" fantasy. Seeing you done like that might be arousing to him. Also the very fact that you are against it might be arousing to him in his head. He might have a s&m fantasy going on in his head too and you are the submissive one to not only one but two men.......I don't know just a thought.....DONT DO IT!! Stay Strong!

piqued

It is one or both of two things, neither of which involves him not loving you as much anymore. He either:

1. is completely getting off on the idea of seeing you pleasured and made love to by another man (while still being able to poke his nose in, so to speak) and/or

2. as much as he loves you he has been harboring and cultivating some homosexual or penis fantasies and this would be a safe way for him to get his hands around (pun intended) this fantasy while still respecting and including you.

Either way, it sounds on the surface as if he loves you a great deal. Now, whether you are comfortable with either of those scenarios is a completely different matter.

Laurae1967

Honey, I am so sorry you have been used in the past and that you are afraid that you husband is making you feel unloved and used. Have you had any therapy? You might benefit from seeking counseling from a psychologist who can help you process your past and set healthy boundaries for you now so that you are never in a position of being used and abused again. Although, I am so happy that your husband's request caused you to take notice right away.

The bottom line is that you should not do ANYTHING that does not make you feel comfortable. You have rights as a human being to not be forced or manipulated to do anything. That is not your job in this life - even for your husband. If he loves you, he will respect that you don't want to be passed around.

My husband thinks that men who want to have a threesome with another guy have some attraction to men (bicurious or gay).

RandomDude

It doesn't have to be so different from real life, I've always wanted the missus to experience this, but she keeps turning it down and says she's been there, done that. Which I doubt - MMMF sure, but being treated like a goddess, pleasuring her all over her body and her beauty worshipped with lustful hands, tongues and lips? There's a difference. There are many men who get off seeing a woman in ectasy like this.



Well, I've also heard that because of my fantasy, I'm 10% gay.

Scannerguard

I actually heard from psychologists taht men who want to have a MMF threesome aren't so much "Gay" as they are craving "male bonding" with the guy they would be doing it with.

Think of it as an alternative to Paint Ball.

Psychologically that is.

Now, the men here who like phallilc objects up their rear.. .that's another story. I got a bogey on my GayDar.

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RandomDude

Erm no, there's plenty like me who like the idea of MMF due to seeing a woman being pleasured like queen, definitely no 'male bonding' or 'gay' related. The focus is on the woman.

WhiteRabbit

a la miss.hilton...that's Hot.