Re: What should I expect for a sex life in marriage?
Mrs. B. I have to beg to differ.
What my research shows, is that most women who go off sex, actually go of their specific man. Of course the is usually against a background of nappies, stress, and reduced sleep - so sex drive may well be reduced as well. However, when such a woman meets a fancy-man -in say- a work situation, the same woman's arousal levels can go off the scale, at the thought of sex with a stranger, and the escapism that comes with it.
Yet many women go through the charade of getting their hormone levels checked, and the tests often come back normal. Unfortunately it is convenient for the medical establishment to say that a lowering of sex drive in women is quite normal in these situations, which masks the fact that monogamy is difficult. I would even go as far as saying that monogamy is harder for women than it is for men, but men tend to be in a position to act on the impulse to cheat more due to being out of the house "legitimately" more often than the female. (On average). Also, the woman will think about the consequences of her actions, more than the male, who wants instant solutions to his urges.
Last edited by MarkTwain; 09-30-2008 at 09:07 AM.