Re: Considering allowing my husband to have sex outside the marriage
When your husband asked your permission to go outside of the marriage for sex, how did it make you feel? Like a slap in the face? Like a slap to the marriage as a whole?
I don't care how much he works or what he does for you and the kids etc. You work too, you have 4 kids. You are tired and now have a lower sex drive due to your responsibility of being a mother/wife, but yet his sex drive is higher with being a husband/father and he wants more and more. Odd his is high, and does so much and your is low but yet you do alot to. Whats keeping his so high I wonder?
With all of these hours he works,what exactly does he do? Has he always worked hours like this? Or is this new? Having sex with him twice a week isn't unreasonable, and like alot of people on this board, would be thrilled to get just that!
I have to wonder like a few others have said, its possible he has already stepped outside fo the marriage, and just looking for you to go along with it, so he no longer has to hide it. I would think juggling a 60 hour work week job, and trying to be a father/husband in his homelife would be hard enough, so if in fact he was already having sex with others and hiding it, then thats bound to make it harder. I guess in his mind if you knew about it, then to him it would take the pressure off of what he is doing and having to hide it.
I'm not saying 100% for sure this is what he is doing, but I do think its possible. And also, if he isn't already, well sounds like he has a interest in someone that might be willing to help him entertain his idea.
"If you always do what you've always done, you will always get what you've always gotten."