Re: Considering allowing my husband to have sex outside the marriage
For my wife and I (no kids) we have sex every other day but on the days we do have sex its sometimes twice in that day, the first one in her mouth (after skipping a day so the volume is high) and then later on in the night having sex.
I would say that if his labido is really high twice a day is not to much to ask, if the kids are that much to watch why dont you get a part time job and hire a full time nanny (if you have an extra room let the nanny stay there for reduced payment, maybe bunk bed the kids to accomodate this). Then one of you needs to get fixed or perform more oral and get on a pill, there is no reason to be having 4 kids unless you have a farm to put the kids to work otherwise 4 kids is just an expensive burden, only in modern days would some think of that comment I just made as negitive, back in the day kids were assets now days we have converted them into liabilities which is a real shame, by shifting the roles and responsibilities and how much kids in the USA in modern times are coddled. If you are sacraficing your relationship with your husband over your kids your in the wrong, kids do NOT come before your spouse period they are off spring.
That being said I would never do the swinger thing but the posts I have read are wrong in their context that he is selfish, I think you are dropping the ball on your wifely duties and if you just accept that this is how it is you may in fact be dealing with a divorce and dont expect his 60 hrs a week to continue if he is paying child support, both your qualities of life will go way down, the whole child support game is a train wreck, men will avoid it to the ends of the earth and you will have to get a full time job and put the kids in day care and get sporatic court arm twisting CS payments.
Its a funny thing that men dont like working for free with uncle sam and child support funeling off more than 50% of their income, not much incentive there to work OT let alone work at all (unless its under the table)
I have seen this play out and it leads to complete ruin, so much easier to just put out. My wife and I helped a friend that was going through this exact thing and my wife got to see the ruin it caused and it also led to my divorce in the past, and she said geez all this for something that was so easy to fix.
Do you let him cum in your mouth, do you swallow, maybe try giving him a rim job, something that does not involve him cumming inside you, maybe start with sex and finish with oral, etc.
You dont want to go down this road of swinging or a divorce or having a dissatisfied husband. Maybe the kids need some harsh disipline if they are running amock when you are trying to get it on.
Remember your husband comes first and the kids second, you might need to get a regular baby sitter for the 18 month old so you can do it every day and maybe make the second time that day a quickie, theres ways to make it work you just have to be willing and be smart about it, the kids should not be running your life your the parents, that 5 year old can be belted if they are way out of control.
Modern society has totally warped child disipline.