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I will give it as often as I can (nearly every time we make love) and will go until she tells me to stop. She can usually only come once from oral, after one, she's to sensitive to let me back down there.
For me, I will take it anytime, but it takes me a while to come from it, so I seldom get a bj all the way to armageddon.
exactly the same for me and my wife Posted via Mobile Device
It sounds like the men are putting in more work then the ladies,,,, why do most women not enjoy giving oral ? and any men that don't like giving oral,,,, why not ?
I love giving oral, but my jaw does start to hurt after just a couple minutes.
It takes him 2-3 min to climax with oral. I pump with my hand the whole time. He says it definitely feels better when I use my hand. Add some anal play and the results are overpowering.
I love giving oral and could go longer. It's him that doesn't last long. Don't pin this "men are doing more work" on me.
Hmmm... Isn't one of the good things of giving oral that you're in control, and can control the pace? So drag it on longer, if you're so inclined. If he's getting close and you don't want him to orgasm yet, just go find some other body area to work on for a bit.
If this was back in the day, my husband could probably go from oral in a minute's time -had I done it. Now adays with alot of sex, depending on his desire level -it takes from about 8 minutes to 20 mins max.
For me, I only like cunnilingus as forplay, I just can't get there from this, he tells me he could spent all day there but I remove him at about 10 minutes approx each time- for us to come together.
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I love giving oral ... i find it very erotic because you do have some control. I mix it up with masterbation, licking, sucking, stroking .. teasing, moving south and paying attention to the boys and of course rimming
I do all of this except the rimming, husband would never go for that -which works for me. I do grab his butt when I am sucking and both hands are always roaming.
Hmmm... Isn't one of the good things of giving oral that you're in control, and can control the pace? So drag it on longer, if you're so inclined. If he's getting close and you don't want him to orgasm yet, just go find some other body area to work on for a bit.
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True and thank you for pointing that out to me. Still working my way out of vanilla sex so I'm new to all this. But I like the tip so I'll do just that the next time I give a bj. Sounds like fun!
I was wondering how long you have oral sex with your spouse. I spend quite a bit of time performing cunnilingus on my wife, a minimum of 15 minutes each time. I once spent 40+ minutes.
As for fellatio, I cum quickly, so my wife usually only spends 5 minutes tops doing it.
So, how does everyone else do oral sex?
As long as it takes to do a good job but typically he's done in 5 minutes. Of course, there are times where I purposely drag it out to make him last longer so he has more time to enjoy it. Then there are the days when it's a quickie and I do the things that make him go in 2 minutes
I don't like oral for myself. I don't know why, I've just never enjoyed it with any man. Husband begs me and every now and then I let him but it just isn't my thing.
I can go down on my wife forever.. but usually she is begging to have me inside her after 5 minutes or so. Except for this past Mothers Day!
Lately if I get oral from her it is like some huge favor, and never long enough for me to come anymore I hope we can work on this, because there's nothing I love more.
Lost Soul, I am speaking for myself. I love giving oral, but I need a well groomed area. A hair will turn me off right now. My cheeks get worn out, my jaws tighten. I need to move to a different position. I need to do something different, and it may not be what you want or need at that moment, but I'll be back.
Giving oral is a great gift for me. If I give it's because you deserve it and I love you that much. Then I will work my heart out to give the best I've got to make it better than last time.
As for recieving and why some women do not like may be why it will be a turn off for me very quickly. Razor burn is not fun at all, Shave closely first please, even if you think that the shave you did in the morning is still close. You are working in sensitive areas. Please don't bite, roll, or pinch with your lips. Again sensitive areas only need a light touch to get a shiver. I enjoy a little tug but proceed with care. Working one spot or motion gets irritating. There is a whole wild place to explore. What worked last time doesn't always work the next time. There is no, high, low, off, on switch. I am a sexual being with different mood levels. I may want that slow, 2 hr loving. I may want a quicky, I may want wild hard, go forever sex. Then again I may want you to lay still and I get to drive you crazy.
I've seen the same things from you. It's great when you are both on the same wave length, but It sometimes doesn't happen at all if you are off wave length.
Considering that I have to shave again, which takes a while to get a baby smooth one, I'm gonna take my time. For my wife, its all about progression. She says the fire has to be kindled.
If this was back in the day, my husband could probably go from oral in a minute's time -had I done it. Now adays with alot of sex, depending on his desire level -it takes from about 8 minutes to 20 mins max.
For me, I only like cunnilingus as forplay, I just can't get there from this, he tells me he could spent all day there but I remove him at about 10 minutes approx each time- for us to come together.
I do all of this except the rimming, husband would never go for that -which works for me. I do grab his butt when I am sucking and both hands are always roaming.
SA,
My husband says that BJ is the best way to wake him up. This morning I was in the study, and then I heard: Blow job...........................blow job..............................blow job................................from the bedroom.
I knew what my husband wanted, so I quickly ran to the bedroom and gave him a good service!
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Now adays with alot of sex, depending on his desire level -it takes from about 8 minutes to 20 mins max. 
Sounds like fun!
