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Old 04-29-2011, 01:51 AM   #1 (permalink)
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I was wondering how long you have oral sex with your spouse. I spend quite a bit of time performing cunnilingus on my wife, a minimum of 15 minutes each time. I once spent 40+ minutes.
As for fellatio, I cum quickly, so my wife usually only spends 5 minutes tops doing it.
So, how does everyone else do oral sex?
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My husband always jokes about him wanting a ten-minute blow job, I only give him five minutes!

Ten minutes is too long for me, my jaw becomes tired. If he wants to cum, we go to bed and finish it there.

My husband licks me to get me wet, after five minutes, I invite him to come in.

If I want to cum orally, I usually get myself horny first by reading porn stories, then my husband comes and performs oral on me, it takes him two or three minutes to make me cum maybe.

My husband likes performing oral on me, he says I taste delicious, he usually wants to be there for quite some time.
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Haven't had oral in a long time so wouldn't know. Still working on rebooting our sex life. For him I spend 10 minutes and he's done.
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As long as she'll let me...

Seriously, with my current partner the first orgasm can take awhile to happen, but I'm usually spending a significant portion of that TRYING to make it last longer for her. I'd say 20 minutes or so. After that, they happen quite a bit quicker. But there's usually a few of them, which is where the "as long as she'll let me" comes into play.

As far as I'm concerned, it seems to take me a long time to have an orgasm through oral sex. A large portion of my arousal is the arousal of my partner. I'd guess 20 minutes, or long enough for her to get a sore jaw. It's not that I don't enjoy it, though. And I think she's very good at it; they can be some of my most intense orgasms. It's the stupid mental part of sex!

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As long as she'll let me...
Me too. We've had more simultaneous orgasms while I'm giving her oral than any other way. Such a turn-on to pleasure her that way.
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Old 04-29-2011, 11:36 AM   #6 (permalink)
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My husband doesn't cum easily from oral; It can take up to 45 mins and my jaw doesn't last that long. I try to go for at least 15 mins.
If he is just giving oral and we are not having sex, it will last for about 30 mins. If it is foreplay, it will be about 10-15 mins. It doesn't take long for me to cum; I usually have at least 3 orgasms per session. Lucky huh?
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As long as it takes, 15 to 20 minutes. I love giving oral, but wife usually doesn't like to get it that much. I would give her oral every day if she would let me.

She likes it occasionally, maybe once a month or less and she doesn't give at all.
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I will give it as often as I can (nearly every time we make love) and will go until she tells me to stop. She can usually only come once from oral, after one, she's to sensitive to let me back down there.
For me, I will take it anytime, but it takes me a while to come from it, so I seldom get a bj all the way to armageddon.
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My wife never seemed that into it, but if I had to spend a half hour at it I'd have to say one of us was doing something wrong.
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I think I can give for an average 15/20 min but my wife can't do more then 5 minutes usually its a 3/4 min since she gets bored or its hard on the jaw and she stops.
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My husband doesn't cum easily from oral; It can take up to 45 mins and my jaw doesn't last that long. I try to go for at least 15 mins.
If he is just giving oral and we are not having sex, it will last for about 30 mins. If it is foreplay, it will be about 10-15 mins. It doesn't take long for me to cum; I usually have at least 3 orgasms per session. Lucky huh?

I love your new picture Mrs G

I have multiple orgasms with oral too, 3 each is weaker than the one before, takes about 10 mins for first one.

My husband usually comes in 5 to 10 mins. depends on how on top of my game I am.

About the length of time it takes for your husband - a change in technique may help. If he comes faster when he maturbates you may be able to get him to come faster if you change your technique. You can ask him to help you duplicate the amount of pressure and rythm he uses to masturbate. You dont have to use your mouth the whole time.

Have you read any books? I had to read books to learn and he guided me. I have to say I think I am good at it now, except swallowing just can't do it yet.

I was horrible at first. Had a hard time with teeth, poor guy I wonder that he let me come near him.

Another thing - this is funny - a girlfriend of mine said her husband took 30 min to cum and her jaws usually got sore. He happened to let it slip that he was holding out orgasm to make it last longer because it felt so good. She nearly beat him up.

So make sure he is not holding back if he is tell him nicely it would be better if he came within 10 mins because your jaws hurt.
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Another thing - this is funny - a girlfriend of mine said her husband took 30 min to cum and her jaws usually got sore. He happened to let it slip that he was holding out orgasm to make it last longer because it felt so good. She nearly beat him up.

So make sure he is not holding back if he is tell him nicely it would be better if he came within 10 mins because your jaws hurt.
My H says he tries to hold off as long as possible too but he's still done in 10 minutes - 15 tops.
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As long as she'll let me...

Seriously, with my current partner the first orgasm can take awhile to happen, but I'm usually spending a significant portion of that TRYING to make it last longer for her. I'd say 20 minutes or so. After that, they happen quite a bit quicker. But there's usually a few of them, which is where the "as long as she'll let me" comes into play.

As far as I'm concerned, it seems to take me a long time to have an orgasm through oral sex. A large portion of my arousal is the arousal of my partner. I'd guess 20 minutes, or long enough for her to get a sore jaw. It's not that I don't enjoy it, though. And I think she's very good at it; they can be some of my most intense orgasms. It's the stupid mental part of sex!

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I didn't know guys had mental effects on the ability to orgasm. I thought it was automatic with the right stimulus.
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I love giving oral ... i find it very erotic because you do have some control. I mix it up with masterbation, licking, sucking, stroking .. teasing, moving south and paying attention to the boys and of course rimming .... so with all the "interuptions" it makes him slow down a bit ... so i can do this for up to an hour --- lots of experience takes away to pain and soreness ... hehehehhe then i slip my finger in and massage his prostate ... and oh oh boy ---watch out ... it is intense and strong --- more "stuff" than you have probably ever seen ... look up prostate orgasims ... you do need to be careful you can injure him ... so do your homework if you wanna try ..... and dont forget the lube ...
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I didn't know guys had mental effects on the ability to orgasm. I thought it was automatic with the right stimulus.
Honestly, I wish that was the case sometimes. Oral is just a tough one for me. It's almost like I NEED the stimulation of her pleasure. There's been times where things are... Slow to respond when she's working on me, but if we switch positions for a few minutes, everything perks right up.

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