Originally Posted by steak
Do women initiate sex? And not only giving hints to it and being subtle but actually initiating sex straight up like a man would?
Just curious, it seems to me that in most relationships the guy is always the one initiating sex.
There is a reason a man is normally "the Initiator" in these things -- he has on average 10 times more Testosterone than a woman flowing through his veins, this is what nature intended. This is the HORNY LUSTFUL Aggressive hormone , also drives fantasies -- and women have MORE Estrogen - this is the RECEPTIVE hormone, so it all makes sense.
I married a lower Test guy-- he has always been calm, patient, laid back, on the quieter side, decently vanilla (but thankfully loves sex & affection, phyiscal touch his #1 Love language).
He married me, the exact opposite of those calm things ... I am more impatient, get bored easily, more expressive, creative, go after what I want type of woman (I guess I have alot of Test), so I have initiated ALOT in the past 3 years, he loves it. It is all good.
Men are not all the same, women are not all the same. I feel in all healthy marrages , each spouse should be showing desire , and "initiating" -It just isn't as fullfilling to have it all one sided . Frankly, that would suck, and not in a good way.