03-25-2012, 09:48 PM
Join Date: Feb 2012
| | Re: Hurtful- Husband refuses sex with me. Too late to fix?
Let me be clear I will be harsh. U don't have to read this.
Let me also be clear I am a wife with kids. I love kids.
Having said that, if I were ur H, it would take me a long, long time to get over what u did. Maybe never.
Ur H is a good man doing what he should do. It is a man's honor to promise u he will never leave because now there is a child. His child. Even he was not ready and willing, he wants the child to have Dad around. I would do the same thing.
But I would not trust the woman that tricked me. And sex was what got me stuck here now. Why would I want to repeat this act? It would be repulsive and bring back all memories. I would much rather watch porn.
My advice is to stop all these efforts to bring his sexual feelings back for u. Tell him u are sorry and really wish he would be with u but u would wait. Frankly, wanting to WATCH PORN WITH HIM is such a bad idea. Please leave him alone.
Ur story almost sounds like some badly written soap, and in these the man often finds true love later with a woman who is not controlling.
I have no idea why anyone would think a child is a good way to keep the marriage intact. What bothers me the most is the unfairness to these CHILDREN. When the marriage gets in trouble later, the children will suffer. They should not have been brought to this world for that purpose. They are not "weapons" or bargaining chips. If the decision of having a baby is not a consensus, then the woman or man can go to a fertility clinic and rely on technology(and choose to raise the kid as a single parent, which is legit in today's society). Tricking a spouse is very low.
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