This video is a start YouTube - ‪McLintock - The big final‬‏
That was humorous.
In seriousness don't worry so much about to be an a$$hole, but do worry about doing the things that make you attractive to your woman.
A woman, she wants (and expects) a challenge.
Be somewhat unpredictable, edgy, make plans yourself without asking her permission, tease her, spank her, look for opportunities to demonstrate your confidence and ego, express that you are amused by your woman when she pouts, fusses, and NEVER seemed to be bothered by it or lose self control when does these kind of tings.
Also these may help: The Man Up and Nice Guy Reference
And for further success, google "sh!t tests" and "hypergamy" to see more how this sexual structure interconnects.
And behind closed doors, do not let worrying about demeaning her or abusing her to the point of being a boring sexual partner.
When the relationship is proper, there is not just okay, but welcome and expected to occasionally grab her by her hair and express your desire for her to do someting that would make a prostitute blush.
Explore your fantasies together, especially the wild ones and the dark ones!
I wish you well.