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If my wife has engaged in certain sex acts with 1st husband and a few BFs in the past but will not do the same with me, should I be offended?
Ladies - are there things you have done with past partners that you won't do with current partners? If so, why?
Not looking for answers that involve mental or physical abuse or answers such as
had sex in the back of the car when I was 16 but wouldn't do it now.
Thanks. Posted via Mobile Device
That's a tough one... If nothing else, I guess a really good answer to the question of "Why them and not me?" might be a good starting point for the discussion.
There is things that my current GF has done in the past, and says she enjoyed even if it wasn't a regular item on her menu. Hasn't happened with us yet; she claims to be concerned about a large peg in a small hole or something... And I respect that (and am flattered at the same time), but... We'll see how things go.
I could see if there was things she did in the past but didn't enjoy. But that excuse wears thin if there was multiple partners who got that opportunity. What does she say when you ask her?
That's a tough one... If nothing else, I guess a really good answer to the question of "Why them and not me?" might be a good starting point for the discussion.
There is things that my current GF has done in the past, and says she enjoyed even if it wasn't a regular item on her menu. Hasn't happened with us yet; she claims to be concerned about a large peg in a small hole or something... And I respect that (and am flattered at the same time), but... We'll see how things go.
I could see if there was things she did in the past but didn't enjoy. But that excuse wears thin if there was multiple partners who got that opportunity. What does she say when you ask her?
"big peg in small hole" - just doesn't want to do it any more.
Going down after intercourse has started - now is nasty.
It is not that I would be upset without these things, I think it is more the thought of
others have done things with my wife that she will not do with me. My commitment
is obviously greater than that of a BF. Posted via Mobile Device
"big peg in small hole" - just doesn't want to do it any more.
Going down after intercourse has started - now is nasty.
It is not that I would be upset without these things, I think it is more the thought of
others have done things with my wife that she will not do with me. My commitment
is obviously greater than that of a BF. Posted via Mobile Device
A woman should NEVER - EVER tell their current man/husband what they did sexually in the past with another - FOR THIS REASON.
Lesson learned gals...
I know what's up with that? My husband doesn't know much of my past. I mean hello I used to be into bad boys. LOL!! He does NOT need to know details. And frankly I don't want to know what he did either.
Yes and she gave the answers above and said it had nothing to do with
me in terms of why she doesn't want to. The last thing I want is her to begrudingly
perform, but I always wonder why it is different with me. Posted via Mobile Device
Yes and she gave the answers above and said it had nothing to do with
me in terms of why she doesn't want to. The last thing I want is her to begrudingly
perform, but I always wonder why it is different with me. Posted via Mobile Device
She feels safe with you. No reason to do all those things for you, you're not going anywhere. BTW, have you tried to initiate some of these things (not ask for)? What was her reaction. Posted via Mobile Device
Those men cracked the code. You have to crack the code. You don't crack the code by asking her why she did it with past men. She is seeing you and herself in a non sexual manner and this has to be fixed.
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Wife's past sex life vs. current sex life 
