Often when wives want space it means there is a thrid party. meaning they are in an EA or PA.
What is an EA and PA?
Why in the world is she thinking about life without you?
Even she doesn't know, that's the problem. She's clueless as to what she wants, or maybe she already knows what she wants and is just afraid of its reality.
The ILYBIANILWY can very much mean there is a third person involved.
Another acroynymn I'm not familiar with. What does that mean?
Also controlling comes up when there is a thrid party.
I've thought of this being a possibility for some time now. There's always been one guy that she seems to have been fond of, a good childhood friend of her older brother's. I did confront her on one occasion about this, and even asked if she's been cheating on me with this guy. She cried hysterically and couldn't believe I asked her such a question. The whole "don't you trust me" came out of her mouth, and I told her that I trust her but not some of the people who she considers to be just friends of hers.
This is honestly where and when I feel our marriage started going back. She joined FB over two years ago, started re-uniting with all her past childhood & high school friends, and was on that crap for hours every night. We used to have sex often before FB came into her life, and because I was starting to get worried I joined up FB to initially keep an eye on her (in a sense). Then I started enjoying FB. I mentioned in both sessions of marriage counseling that FB was the devil in our relationship. Instead of talking face-to-face with her, the communication involved emails, texts, FB messages or FB chatting. I turned the FB chatting off, because I would much rather speak with you in person than through that ****.
In our most recent fight, I told her how I felt about FB and that I was going to delete my account. I never told her to do it with her account, but I stated that FB was ruining our marriage. All those hours per day she spent on it could've been spent with me. The next day she wrote saying she deleted it. However, I then learned that she only deactivated it. I asked if she has intentions of going back to it, she said she doesn't think so.
Why not just delete the account entirely? Kind of a half-assed approach by her if you ask me.
I can honestly say that I don't miss it one bit.
Yes, she goes to the gym about 3 times a week. It's just another way for her to get away from me, let off some steam & stress, and get into great shape.
Which reminds me, she looks smoking hot now. I tell her this, she then does the "ummm, thanks" crap to me, and because she's getting hotter by working out she won't let me take advantage of her or take care of her in a sexual way. She bought a new swimming suit, was flaunting it at me which got me quite aroused, and then I told her how great she looked in it and what it did to me. She didn't seem too impressed or interested by that. I don't get it.
She goes out all the time. She'll go out to her girlfriends' one day on the weekend, hang out with women in the neighborhood for some drinks & gossip at one of their homes (she's had them over at our place before), and then she goes out to exercise about 3 times a week.
Do her and I go out? Almost never. We have a date day/night today and my parents have the kids for the night, so it's just the two of us. I'm sure she's thinking that all I'm going to want is sex tonight, and I'm sure she's just waiting for me to mention something about that. Our plans are going to a movie of her choice and then dinner somewhere nice. Afterward, probably just come home and chill. I'm nervous about today, because of her saying just the other day that she wants space. Not sure how I'm going to play this one out today.
High School Reunions?
Yes, both of our 20-yr reunions are coming up. I'm not going to mine, because I hate the people from there. She's dying to go to hers, though, because she just loves everyone. Ugh. Worse of all, is that her reunion is on a Friday night and all day Saturday and Saturday night (everyone is staying at a hotel). I haven't said to her if I was going or not, but because she knows I don't like some of her high school friends that she's probably not intending on me going with her. The whole damn thing scares the hell out of me, and I know I would be miserable there yet worrying my ass off at home. Not sure what to do with that one.
What does she do with her time beyond being a mother?
Lots of things for herself as previously mentioned, but not much for "us."
What activities do you guys do together period?
Right now, nothing. I keep trying to do date outings with her, and because we both work it's hard to make things like that happen. It's no excuse, but I do keep throwing out dates & ideas. Other than that, we just play the role of roommates in my eyes.