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Okay, kasey, you spilled your guts (and no, I don't think it's weird), now I'll spill mine.
I have a nylon/spandex fetish-love seeing women in PH, shiny, tight clothes, leotards, swimsuits, etc., and love for my W to put one of these items on for sex.
And, I, myself, like to wear men's ballet tights-complete with dance belt underneath!
There, I said it.
Actually, there's a story behind it: when I worked for a vacation condo company, I was in charge of the prize giveaways, and I had a little schpeel that I had to recite for the drawings. I got so good at it, I would practically sing it, and people said that I would be good as a radio announcer or a motivational speaker. So, this one lady who worked there and I started joking about me singing it opera-style, and she looked me up and down, I guess she was thinking of Shakespeare, and said that I would look good in white tights.
I must admit, I start laughing out loud when I read this, thinking Oh my this has to be a joke, then the breast feeling comment sent me over the edge. Life is so interesting. It is amazing what turns some on, the inner workings of the mind. I would probably laugh like crazy if my husband said this to me, but I would still have a ball performing MOM for him -breastfeeling and all. I am not judging in any way, just expressing my 1st impression. Never heard of this before, I agree with another poster, anything so long as it does not involve illegal activity, nothing wrong with being out of the box!
I am not sure I have any fetish's -other than I get turned on taking clothes off, I prefer going to bed with at least something on -so he can take it off, I love unbuttoning his shirt & unbottoning his pants teasingly. This is terribly tame & surely no fetish though. I guess I don't have any.
Admittedly I have never heard of this fetish. I have a fetish, albeit a more common one, my female is okay with it. Yours will probably be surprised at the least. Tread with caution on this one.
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Gloria in excelsis Deo, et in terra pax hominibus bonae voluntatis
It's true that there is noting wrong with having a fetish but I think it is disingenuous to consider a partner who is not willing to engage in a fetish as narrow minded. If having a fetish is natural not wanting to engage in one is equaly natural and normal.
Secondly, since this is so important to you and I think it is uncommon ? you and your wife may be incompatible sexually. Do you think you could stay in the relationship if she can not meet this need? If not I think you have to plan what you will do. I think you are doing the smart think by asking for advice and the suggestion and sharing has been good.
Can I ask what is a fetish and what is a desire for some sexually like anal sex? Is it any different is it differnt in terms of the ability to not have it and if so why. I'm surprised that I really like anal sex. When my husband wanted to try it I thought it was disgusting and perverted. I did not say that. Now I crave it and like it when he tell me he is going to do with out asking. Is that a fetish.
I have a concern though, depending on her expectations and ideas about masculinity, she may change her view of you and her attitude. Is she kinky and willing to try risky things like sex outside or in a bathroom at a club or is she inhibited.
The suggestion about dressing up for halloween and gauging her response is excellent. If she seems to think it's fun then you can ask her to treart you like a baby. Then go slowly from there. You can find just about anything online so maybe googling "how to introduce wife to fetish" will offer some useful clues. I think it's important to keep as open a mind towards wheather she wants to participate as you would like to have from her. I think it would work better to Try not to judge her so she won't judge you. If you are open you may gain some headway even after an initial refusal.
I hope it works out and that you can both be happy. You may have to compromise BTW. For instance she may not want to actually do # 2 in the diaper. Would you be happy with that? Posted via Mobile Device
is it wrong that i laughed and rolled my eyes upon reading 'my female' lol sorry it just sounded so Me Tarzan,You Jane
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I sometimes jokingly talk to her in this manner as it asserts slight dominance which I believe a man shoud have in a relationship. "Less talk and more work, female. Obey your man!" She complies.
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Gloria in excelsis Deo, et in terra pax hominibus bonae voluntatis
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Gloria in excelsis Deo, et in terra pax hominibus bonae voluntatis
The first part comes from a Catholic mass but I have a feeing that it ends with something that a priest might think but not dare say, what is the translation? Posted via Mobile Device
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I sometimes jokingly talk to her in this manner as it asserts slight dominance which I believe a man shoud have in a relationship. "Less talk and more work, female. Obey your man!" She complies.
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Gloria in excelsis Deo, et in terra pax hominibus bonae voluntatis
I'm glad my H doesn't talk to me like this! I may be okay with some domination in the bedroom, but outside of it - no way. I would likely punch him if he called me "his female", and wouldn't be very likely to "obey" anything. To each his own.
Okay, kasey, you spilled your guts (and no, I don't think it's weird), now I'll spill mine.
I have a nylon/spandex fetish-love seeing women in PH, shiny, tight clothes, leotards, swimsuits, etc., and love for my W to put one of these items on for sex.
And, I, myself, like to wear men's ballet tights-complete with dance belt underneath!
There, I said it.
Actually, there's a story behind it: when I worked for a vacation condo company, I was in charge of the prize giveaways, and I had a little schpeel that I had to recite for the drawings. I got so good at it, I would practically sing it, and people said that I would be good as a radio announcer or a motivational speaker. So, this one lady who worked there and I started joking about me singing it opera-style, and she looked me up and down, I guess she was thinking of Shakespeare, and said that I would look good in white tights.
MAN, WAS I TURNED ON!
Fortunately, my W goes along with it.
I found out by accident, due to photo's he had downloaded, because he NEVER told me that my husband LOVES latex on women.
Bustiers and latex shorts.
So...after I heal from my tummy tuck surgery - I'm going to find the raunchiest, tightest bustier and latex shorts outfit I can - that will surely "increase" his sex drive!
I have to admit that putting on and seeing my husband in my lace panties was a turn-on.
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Re: Crazy fetish? 
The standard should be harm to another.
