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Old 06-21-2011, 10:20 AM   #16 (permalink)
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Well I am happy I have a 6 and a half inches with 3 and a 1/2 girth. what you need is confidence in one's self.

even if you had a 8 incher you would probably feel insecure. no sexual encounter makes a man less confident when compared to a man who get's it on the regular
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In the Wikipedia article Human penis size - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia it states that my measurements are around average, which surprised me. I have always had anxiety that I am too small, again, especially if my future mate has been with someone bigger.

I know some of these replies will be crazy, but I am hoping to get some real feedback, suggestions, advice etc. Thanks
Best thing you can do is to NEVER, NEVER, NEVER comment abut size and wikipedia stats to your intended lover/wife/partner.

Just be all you can be. There's a lady out there for you. If you only encounter size queens, you keep looking.

However, I highly doubt that this will be the case.
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Old 06-21-2011, 03:38 PM   #18 (permalink)
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I am a guy and have been saving myself for marriage. It's just something I believe in and something I want to do.

My worry is that I find a great girl and we are perfect for one another, and we marry and then I cannot perform or I am too small for her. Especially if she herself is not a virgin.

My penis is just under 6 inches, probably more closer to 5 1/2 inches. The girth is about 4 3/4 inches, just under 5 inches. Is this fine? Is this average?

In the Wikipedia article Human penis size - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia it states that my measurements are around average, which surprised me. I have always had anxiety that I am too small, again, especially if my future mate has been with someone bigger.

I know some of these replies will be crazy, but I am hoping to get some real feedback, suggestions, advice etc. Thanks
Interesting. Is this born out of your faith or?

You are normal. Almost all men are normal. However, many are insecure about their size. Unfounded.
Sex is important in a marriage. You should click here as well, might not turn out that way if you wait till after marriage to find out. Anyway, if she is the right one your penis size will be the last thing on her mind. And you have a normal one. If she worries on that, then there is something else going on that's the problem.
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Best thing you can do is to NEVER, NEVER, NEVER comment abut size and wikipedia stats to your intended lover/wife/partner.

Just be all you can be. There's a lady out there for you. If you only encounter size queens, you keep looking.

However, I highly doubt that this will be the case.
But what if she is concerned with size, or curious might be a better word?

If I find a girl that I think is the one, would we just get together and go skinny dipping or something, or just get naked together. Would I measure it in front of her to show that it is average (as I'm a grower not a show'er)??

Would it be best to just let her see what I have and get the size out there?
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You're fine on size.

One issue that can make men feel small is if they are a shrinker and they see danglers. Some men don't shrink / grow, they just dangle. So you see them and think they have a huge tool... only that's all they've got!.
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Would it be best to just let her see what I have and get the size out there?
Not a good idea. She might wonder if you take that approach on a regular basis, and maybe even in public.

Just kidding, but remember that we often rise to the occasion even when kissing on the sofa, and its not too easy to hide. I think she'll figure out that the plumbing's all in order down there. I also think very few women want to know exact measurements unless its going to be a big disappointment. If she's naive enough to really dwell on size, just tell her that she won't be thinking that an anaconda crawled into bed with the two of you, but she won't leave frustrated either.
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I am a guy and have been saving myself for marriage. It's just something I believe in and something I want to do.

My worry is that I find a great girl and we are perfect for one another, and we marry and then I cannot perform or I am too small for her. Especially if she herself is not a virgin.

My penis is just under 6 inches, probably more closer to 5 1/2 inches. The girth is about 4 3/4 inches, just under 5 inches. Is this fine? Is this average?

In the Wikipedia article Human penis size - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia it states that my measurements are around average, which surprised me. I have always had anxiety that I am too small, again, especially if my future mate has been with someone bigger.

I know some of these replies will be crazy, but I am hoping to get some real feedback, suggestions, advice etc. Thanks

The wikipedia penis size page speaks about the lifestyles condom average penis size, the Journal of urology penis size... and the measurement is totally different from one to another.

I found an article entitled: "The Lifestyles condom study issue"

Ok, it says we cannot compare any penis length with the lifestyles condom study that is cited in the human penis size page of Wikipedia because we don't know the measurement procedure.

Bad information is dangerous because men may believe they have a small penis after looking at those figures.
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Old 06-22-2011, 08:48 AM   #23 (permalink)
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But what if she is concerned with size, or curious might be a better word?

If I find a girl that I think is the one, would we just get together and go skinny dipping or something, or just get naked together. Would I measure it in front of her to show that it is average (as I'm a grower not a show'er)??

Would it be best to just let her see what I have and get the size out there?
Sheesh!
Mate! You're fine! Physically at least, but your confidence in this department might need some work on.

Some women do comment on wee wees to test out your confidence, or to get under your nerves, or just to have fun. You have to be very solid in this.

I still remember the time before marriage when I was being a sexual bragging egotistical maniac a$$hole to the missus - just to get under her nerves (I do that for fun sometimes, yes I'm weird), so to attempt to 'pop my bubble', she mentioned "Oh yeah? I had guys bigger than you!" (which is probably true considering she had quite 'interesting' past experiences!).

So I replied "Oh really? Well it's freakin obvious that they didn't know how to use it otherwise you wouldn't be here!" Heh we had a good laugh. That was the last time she ever made a negative comment about my willy!

Now -> This could be what the men in the men's clubhouse would have called a "fitness test", but I don't know. Nonetheless whether she was just trying to pop my bubble or to test whether I was confident or just bragging freely - I'll never know. Either way, you have to be more confident mate. And it's not something that you can act, the same way you pick up ladies mate while you're still single -> you don't memorise lines and expect them to work. You BE confident, and EMPATHIC, and you'll know the right words, and the right moves, to execute right at the RIGHT TIME.

Just be who you are, and love, and respect yourself. Otherwise, it will be harder for others to respect you.
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Old 07-07-2011, 10:09 PM   #24 (permalink)
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I've measured again, and erect it's really around 5 1/2 in length and just barley over 4 1/2 in girth/circumference (the width straight across the widest part is a little over 1 1/2 inches.

I just get so freaked out I won't be able to please my future wife, especially if she has been with someone else. There is a girl that I really like but I don't know how to proceed. I kinda feel like just pulling it out and getting it erect and saying "this is all I got, i'm sorry, hopefully it will work for you."

I mean I can get a pretty strong erection but i'm unsure about my size and I don't really have a good way to tell if I can last a long time, as when most guys masturbate it is in a quick fashion.
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You're fine on size.

One issue that can make men feel small is if they are a shrinker and they see danglers. Some men don't shrink / grow, they just dangle. So you see them and think they have a huge tool... only that's all they've got!.

Howard Stern calls them "locker room penises." Men can swagger around the locker room with them but they really don't grow in length or girth, they just harden.
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Old 07-08-2011, 06:31 AM   #26 (permalink)
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I've measured again, and erect it's really around 5 1/2 in length and just barley over 4 1/2 in girth/circumference (the width straight across the widest part is a little over 1 1/2 inches.

I just get so freaked out I won't be able to please my future wife, especially if she has been with someone else. There is a girl that I really like but I don't know how to proceed. I kinda feel like just pulling it out and getting it erect and saying "this is all I got, i'm sorry, hopefully it will work for you."

I mean I can get a pretty strong erection but i'm unsure about my size and I don't really have a good way to tell if I can last a long time, as when most guys masturbate it is in a quick fashion.
You're fine with your size, like everyone else said. But if you're so self conscious about pleasing your future gf/wife, why don't you go out and experiment with girls? Go on dates, have sex...what's the point in saving yourself if it's causing you so much stress?
Obviously the girl who falls in love with you will most likely enjoy your skills, but unless you get some experience your paranoia will most likely only get worse..
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Old 07-08-2011, 01:07 PM   #27 (permalink)
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Dude you are totally average. That means that there are a lot of guys smaller than you. Funny how guys worry about that. I know a guy who is 7.5 and worried that he is too small...lol

Also, not sure how old you are or what you weigh, but if you are young (under 25) you may still get a slight increase, and if you are overweight you can gain about an inch for ever 30lbs you lose.
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Old 07-08-2011, 01:43 PM   #28 (permalink)
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This is a surprisingly common anxiety, but thankfully, it's an emotional one, not a rational one, so you CAN change your mind, and your feelings about this.

There is a chance that you'll end up with a size queen, but that's not a very likely outcome. I'm actually about the same size, and believe it or not, my wife used to find me too big!

And it's true, penis size matters. There is such a thing as too small, and there is such a thing as too big. But thankfully very few men fall into this category, and you aren't among them! And while size does matter, it doesn't matter as much as you've been lead to believe!

My wife has an orgasm roughly 80%-90% of the time through penis-in-vagina intercourse, and that's with completely average, run-of-the-mill (though exercised) equipment. In other words, a good penis only goes so far, skill, which you can learn matters at least as much.

If you're still concerned, then one thing that you can do is kegle exercises, which will give you harder errections. And one thing that you could definitely do to help you feel better is to take up penis exercises like stretching, and jelqing which could possibly improve the health of your penis, and help you in the size department a little. There seems to be some evidence that a HARDER penis is more important than a BIGGER one.

There's an internet forum called Thunder's place which is all about penis enlargement and stretching. Don't over do it, if you take two weeks, you'll probably feel a whole lot better about yourself.
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This is a surprisingly common anxiety, but thankfully, it's an emotional one, not a rational one, so you CAN change your mind, and your feelings about this.

There is a chance that you'll end up with a size queen, but that's not a very likely outcome. I'm actually about the same size, and believe it or not, my wife used to find me too big!

And it's true, penis size matters. There is such a thing as too small, and there is such a thing as too big. But thankfully very few men fall into this category, and you aren't among them! And while size does matter, it doesn't matter as much as you've been lead to believe!

My wife has an orgasm roughly 80%-90% of the time through penis-in-vagina intercourse, and that's with completely average, run-of-the-mill (though exercised) equipment. In other words, a good penis only goes so far, skill, which you can learn matters at least as much.

If you're still concerned, then one thing that you can do is kegle exercises, which will give you harder errections. And one thing that you could definitely do to help you feel better is to take up penis exercises like stretching, and jelqing which could possibly improve the health of your penis, and help you in the size department a little. There seems to be some evidence that a HARDER penis is more important than a BIGGER one.

There's an internet forum called Thunder's place which is all about penis enlargement and stretching. Don't over do it, if you take two weeks, you'll probably feel a whole lot better about yourself.
Great stuff. Thanks very much!
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It all depends on her vagina.

I have been told by doctors that mine is very long and narrow. Who knew! This works out fine because my husband is very large.

I have been with smaller men, and was satisfied. I have been with a very small man and was satisfied, where he lacked in penis size, he made up for in other ways.

Do not worry.
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