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Old 06-23-2011, 07:51 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Just going to make a lighthearted thread, tell me folks...

Anyone ever met women like this? AKA -> All the flags tell you that they are actually bi, but they deny it all the time. How do you react to them?
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What flags? Women are socialized to find other women attractive and conditioned to believe it's cool and sexy to be bi, so many women identify as being so.
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To the point they've actually told you rather "interesting" stories of their past adventures with other women.
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Well I have fooled around a little with that as well, however I still consider myself straight. I only want a relationships with men (namely one), and can't ever ever see myself being in a relationship with a woman. However I have many times fantasized about being with a woman.

Also please note that it is a turn off when men try and push you in that direction, because of their own fantasies. No woman wants to be pushed towards having a threesome to make her man happy, to me it's just a way for a man to cheat and not feel bad.
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I still consider myself straight... However I have many times fantasized about being with a woman.

See that? That's what I just don't get!
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Sexuality is who you love not who you screw.
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See that? That's what I just don't get!
I am aware that my natural inclinations are towards men far more then women, in fact I know I need to be with a manly man or will not feel satisfied.

However we are all influenced by what we see and hear, and being bombarded with images of women and being given the message that that was sexy growing up, I believe changed my brain and I do find women attractive.

Sometimes I even fantasize about having a threesome with my fiance and another woman, however I would be extremely hurt if he really wanted to do this, as to me it would be like cheating and would destroy the trust I have in him that I am enough for him, and he wants to only be with me. I know it would ruin our relationship.

He does not really bring this subject up, and if we discuss it, it's because I want to talk about the fantasy. if he pushed the issue I would feel turned off and like he did not respect me or love me and was not satisfied with me.
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Well, I reckon the missus is in your shoes, but covers it up more. To be honest I've been wanting for her to admit at least THAT much for years.

For me however I would rather I sit back and watch the missus in action with a woman than to 'cheat under consent' so to speak. She's rather 'experienced' with other women even (experienced enough anyways, for a 'straight' woman).
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I know your wife is on the religious side, so if she admits this outright, she will have to Repent Repent & Repent -for her thoughts anyway -seems a logical reason, given this moral dilemma to continue to DENY DENY DENY.
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Yes, it's another issue in our "pagan"/"christian" game. Oh well.
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To the point they've actually told you rather "interesting" stories of their past adventures with other women.
I know tons of LUGS.
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Unless you're really freaked out about it, so what? And if she's had some lesbian flings, use it your advantage. Ask her what she learned about sex and love from them.
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Old 06-23-2011, 12:52 PM   #12 (permalink)
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Women are socialized to find other women attractive and conditioned to believe it's cool and sexy to be bi, so many women identify as being so.
I thought this was rather interesting, because this hasn't been my experience. Perhaps it is generational, cultural, or social differences between what I have experienced and Syrum has.

You know there's quite a spectrum of behaviour in regards to sexual orientation. See the following:

Kinsey scale - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Perhaps what one person sees as someone being clear-cut bi-or bi-in-denial, the other person doesn't see that way at all because they fall somewhere further along the spectrum of behaviour.
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Perhaps what one person sees as someone being bi-curious or bi-in-denial, the other person doesn't see that way at all.
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If I were a woman I would be mad bi.
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I mean that what one person may see as clearly bi-sexual behaviour or tendencies in their partner or in another , the partner or other person may not see as so. The partner may still identify themselves as predominantly heterosexual. In other words, sexual orientation is not something so black and white. It is shades of gray.
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