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I have a question that I have asked several times to men who want to try anal with an unwilling wife. Would be willing to let her give you abal with a dildo the size of your penis? Let say she said I'll try if you will first and every time I let you you have to return the favor. How atractive does anal seem now?
I'd advise women who are being pestered by husbands for anal to purchase a dildo and when he begins to pester - pull that bad boy out, grease it up and put it on the bedside table. Tell him the above. Some men will give up at that point. :}}
Some will call your bluff just go along only to stop when he sees you have every intention of doing it and a few men will want it. If they do then you have a decision - can you maintain attraction to a man who likes anal sex on him.
I think this will get rid of 98% of the problem of men who will not give up the anal sex thing. When they have to face the pain and discomfort and possibility of a loose butt hole from repeated penetration they may be more compassionate and drop the idea. Posted via Mobile Device
Funny you should ask. Although I never "pestered" her about it (said, "hey...how 'bout we give it a try?" once), I did make such a deal at my suggestion, not hers. When we first considered it, reading indicated that many men enjoy it for the sensation of prostate stimulation. So, I told her that, turnabout being fair, if she wanted to use one o her vibrators on me, I was willing. It wasn't quite as big as me...a little smaller. Felt good. A couple years later, when she got a new vibrator that she enjoyed more, she gave that first one to me for my own use. Posted via Mobile Device
Re: Have you ever made concessions in the bed room?
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Originally Posted by WhiteRabbit
i gave up something bc H wasn't into it at all. he's so meek and mild when it comes to sex.i gave up my need for certain types of aggressive behavior. i fantasize about it but never asked him for it after the first time of him saying, "you seriously like it like that?!omg i can't stay hard if i'm treating you like that!"
since the thought of sex with him turns my stomach at the moment, I bet he'd be MORE than willing to try it MY way again just to be able to touch my body once more
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I gave up many things, to name some: anal, swallow, bdsm, fetish, roleplay...the spicy things I will not count because I don't want to offend anybody reading and also don't need judgment right now.
I gave most of it up because honestly I find it not to be as good as people think it is, to me at least.
None of these things have I done with my wife actually, maybe she would want it but is afraid to ask? Who knows.
She's struggling to get the even the regular stuff she wants as much as she wants it from me.
As for watching porn, it really never occurred to me to watch it together. But I think I'm on my way to eliminating that as well.
Re: Have you ever made concessions in the bed room?
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Originally Posted by frustr8dhubby
I guess not. Or at least she doesn't want ME touching them...
H's xw is this way.she said it felt more weird than pleasurable for her.she said no matter how lightly he played with them she hated the feeling and it didn't do anything but distract her.
i don't get it but different strokes for different..uh... nipples...
Re: Have you ever made concessions in the bed room?
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Originally Posted by cherrypie18
This might sound dumb but before anal do you have to get an enema??
I liked anal but I felt self conscious because of that so I wouldn't bring it up...he never asked himself anyway.
As if it's not gross enough by itself, why would one want to make it worse by the sights and smells? Best to have an enema before. Otherwise it can get nasty, believe me. For the woman I don't really see an attractive side, but for the man (speaking from my experience) the tightness of the hole makes a snug fit for the penis and that's a whole different experience than regular sex. But all things considered, still don't want it that much anymore, if at all.
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Originally Posted by Prometheus Pyrphoros
As if it's not gross enough by itself, why would one want to make it worse by the sights and smells? Best to have an enema before. Otherwise it can get nasty, believe me. For the woman I don't really see an attractive side, but for the man (speaking from my experience) the tightness of the hole makes a snug fit for the penis and that's a whole different experience than regular sex. But all things considered, still don't want it that much anymore, if at all.
The few times we did it it was not planned so the whole time I kept freaking out what if something happens but lucky me everything was fine lol
I don't really find it gross but I guess you're right an enema should be compulsory!
For those who think anal is nasty, you should try DP it's mind blowingly amazing
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i don't get it but different strokes for different..uh... nipples...
