07-28-2011, 08:37 PM
Join Date: Jul 2011
| | Re: How often?
My wife and I are both 26. We've been married for 3 years. We got married about a year and a half into our relationship. When we first started dating we had sex everyday. Multiple times a day sometimes. But over the years we've had quite a few time periods where we rarely had sex. I think we've gone as long as 3 weeks.
Over the last 6 months or so we started to have a pretty rough patch sexually. We were only having sex about once a week at the most and half the time she made it seem like a chore (even though she has an orgasm every time).
One day we were discussing it and she suggested we have sex every day. While sticking to this is all but impossible we've done pretty well. It's been about a month and I'd say out of the last 30 days we've probably had sex 20-25 times.
The funny thing is....I'm finding I don't want it that often now. I feel like now that its expected that we have sex every day its less exciting. I think I may feel how she did before. She felt like she "had to" because I expected it (even though it was once a week). Now I feel the same way. The last week or so has been more spontaneous and we've done it about 3 times probably...I'm much happier.
I feel like I've found the key...we don't plan anything...but we don't let ourselves only do it once a week. And I find myself wanting her more and more.