Reading here and other places, it seems like your typical sexless marriage is made up of 2 generals who have their armies marshalled and ready to battle...except they sit there eyeing each other across the battlefield in an uneasy truce.
In the end, isn't it better to fight that final battle with the intentions that it's the final stand? Wouldn't you rather figure out if you are General Wellington or General Custer? Without doing anything, both armies are losing due to inaction as a result of attrition. If both sides have this stranglehold on the other in an uneasy truce, eventually both sides wither away until there is nothing left.
I understand the reasons given - kids and finances - which ironically is the exact same mindset taken when it comes to infidelity (in most cases). But are those reasons actually good enough? I don't mean are they important enough. I mean if you are willing to put up with a sexless marriage and sacrifice yourself for the sake of your kids, doesn't the family normally degrade enough in these types of situations to the point that the family that stayed together only provided a marginal benefit vs splitting in the first place?
In the end, isn't it better to fight that final battle with the intentions that it's the final stand? Wouldn't you rather figure out if you are General Wellington or General Custer? Without doing anything, both armies are losing due to inaction as a result of attrition. If both sides have this stranglehold on the other in an uneasy truce, eventually both sides wither away until there is nothing left.
I understand the reasons given - kids and finances - which ironically is the exact same mindset taken when it comes to infidelity (in most cases). But are those reasons actually good enough? I don't mean are they important enough. I mean if you are willing to put up with a sexless marriage and sacrifice yourself for the sake of your kids, doesn't the family normally degrade enough in these types of situations to the point that the family that stayed together only provided a marginal benefit vs splitting in the first place?