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Women, what would you think if your man wanted to be slightly submissive?
I would like to be a little bit submissive during sex with a woman, no hitting or being restrained or anything like that... But for example only giving oral and not receiving it. I'm not sure if that would even be submissive by defenition but it's kinda what I want. I'm not sure if I should get anymore detailed than that but I want to do it I guess in a slightly submissive way.
However, I wonder what women would think about this. Would you get turned off if your boyfriend/husband wanted to be a bit submissive? Would you even break up with him? Or would you agree to it?
I haven't been with a woman yet. But if I get a girlfriend I'm kinda worried she will think I'm less of a man or something if I wanted to do it in the way that I would like. I'm very much like any other guy in every other aspect in life.
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Everyone is different. I would be instantly turned off. I prefer to be manhandled in bed though. Too much control in my daily life makes me crave something else in the bedroom. Posted via Mobile Device
Re: Women, what would you think if your man wanted to be slightly submissive?
It sounds like you are describing just being a real pleaser in bed. Most women like that! Giving and not expecting anything in return (oral) would not be a turn off to most women.
If you want to be slightly overpowered by a woman (her being more sexually aggressive than you) I am sure you will have no problem finding someone who wants to do that. Try to find a woman who has a confident, strong personality. She may like that.
Also, since you've never been with a woman, you may be surprised about what you really want once you are in a real-life situation. There are many powerful men who are submissive in the sack, so don't worry about it. Just go have fun.
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As a guy, here's my take...
There's lots of women who like to dominate their men, and lots of websites devoted to finding a match. So if that's what floats your boat, I don't think you have more than a minor kink.
Having said that, I love giving oral sex to my GF, and every other partner I've had. Receiving oral sex, I can take it or leave it, and have difficulties having an orgasm from it. But I would definitely consider myself the dominant partner in those relationships.
As laurae says, you might be very surprised by who's the dominant partner in some relationships... The powerful man who likes to give up control, the meek housewife who wants to take control... You'll find your match, if you want to!
Re: Women, what would you think if your man wanted to be slightly submissive?
Are there other areas of your life where your gf/wife would be submissive? I think it's a matter of balance. Especially if it's 'slightly' and it wasn't initially her cup of tea, if there were something you were always in control of (something nice, recreational even) then she would probably appreciate a turn at being dominant. Have to say, theoretically (or ummmmm, in my fantasy land) there's nothing like being swept off your feet literally on the dance floor, to make you feel like you want to show your partner whose really boss. LOL
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Wouldn't bother me but I wouldn't want it like that all the time, though I'm sure there are women who would. I think it's fun to take turns in that type of thing. But as has been said, once you try you might change your mind about what you want. And there are so many types of things to do - you should try as much as you feel comfortable with.
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Originally Posted by WhiteRabbit
Everyone is different. I would be instantly turned off. I prefer to be manhandled in bed though. Too much control in my daily life makes me crave something else in the bedroom.
Re: Women, what would you think if your man wanted to be slightly submissive?
In my experience, most women only become sexually dominant when theyre piss ass drunk. Women are hard wired to desire dominance and masculinity in a man and often get turned off by submissive guys. That don't mean he can't go down south though.
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?! Giving oral to a woman is submissive?
I personally love it, smooth beautiful legs welcoming you into soft delicious lips. I personally can't see how it's considered submissive considering I practically grab the missus into my mouth.
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That doesn't have to be submissive! You can only give oral and not let her do it to you...lol. Unless you want to be submissive and let her take the lead?
I prefer my man to be dominant...to the point where it gets a little weird. But, thankfully my husband is into that as well.
Women, what would you think if your man wanted to be slightly submissive? 
