Re: Wife feels "touched out"
This wife is EXHAUSTED. She is a single mum during the week. On the weekends when H is home, she is trying to do everything, so that she does not have to do it during the week alone.
Mums out there you remember how difficult it was to take the kids grocery shopping with you. The fighting, the crying, chasing after one or the other. The kids picking up stuff you don't want them to eat. It is exhausting. Then you come home, kids are tired and hungry and you have groceries to sort and pack. I can understand why she does it by herself when her husband is home. It's quicker and easier on her.
Then, the whole PTO thing. My God, the schools always needs you for this or that. Then, you have to take the smaller ones with you. You made commitments you should not have. But some how got roped into it. She is being pulled all over the place. Oh yes, she can say no. But we mums always feel bad when you have not done enough to help your kids get a better education.
At home, the little ones are all over her. She is the only one there during the week for their every wants and needs. Then, she has housework, laundry, cooking and homework. I am getting exhausted thinking of all those things she has to do.
Daddy, she needs help. Your being involved on the weekends is not cutting it. On the weekend you guys have to create some time together. Just you two. Hire a sitter, dinner, dance, hotel room. Whatever it takes.
She is lonely. Tired. Resents you for leaving her all alone. You get to go outside and have all this freedom(in her eyes). You meet adults, you have conversations. Convos that does not have to do with children. You have no responsibilities. You are the visiting dad. Your being home, just adds more work for her. You want sex and touchy feelly stuff.
When all she wants is some peace and quite. No demands. No mummy, mummy. No, honey, you want some loving up?
You are not a bad man for having to work and provide for your family. You are a great provider and great care taker of your family. She appreciates all your handwork that you do to provide for her and the kids.
Your marriage needs more that a provider. Your wife needs the support of her husband and lover. You guys sit down and have a long talk about how to fix this. Be prepared for her being angry at you. She just need some help and you being around. Make it safe so that she can tell you how she feels, without you getting upset. Hear her out. Good luck.