Re: Wife feels "touched out"
We all make sacrifices to balance work and family. My hb could probably make a lot more money if he took a traveling job but it would damage our marriage so he didn't. We work it out together.
If OP has addressed what they've done to try be able to be together more, like moving/rebudgeting for a closer job/wife getting a part time job to compensate for him being closer I've missed it. But I do know that the current situation is not working. .... he came on claiming that he's not getting the sex he wants, like that's the only issue.
You can't have everything, so if he's willing to accept that he's got a detached wife so he can make more money that's his decision. Nowhere has he said that she demands he keep this job for the money, unless I've missed that too.
If you're gone a lot you're not going to have a close bond with your spouse. It is what it is, it's a known issue in military communities of which I am a veteran.
As for whose fault it is? It really doesn't matter because he's the one asking for advice, not her, so many of is us are telling him that the distance isn't working.
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