MEM11363

OD,
Friday night I return after a week of travel. I tell her it has been a long day and I am very tired.
She tells me she is taking a shower. I gently mention my fatigue. She repeats that she is taking a shower.
This equates to: we ARE having sex. I shrugged took a shower right after her and we had great sex.
Was I initially in the mood? Not at all. Did I get myself in the mood to make her happy? You betcha.
Was I resentful? For maybe 30 seconds yes. Could she tell? Heck no.
And I/we took our time and it was great.

This whole "me me me" song just would not play in our house.

Not with either of us.


For me, sex is a huge part of what makes me happy, and makes everything else in my world much less stressful. dr phil be damned.

of course im a once a month recipient, basically sexless marriage, and i am increasingly more unhappy and resentful about the other things in our life. but everyone in here is spot on, the LD spouse has not reason to change and simply wont.[/QUOTE]
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ladybird

i should ask my h this question.. I am the one who wants sex not him.

Syrum

I think that's a really important thing MEM. It should go both ways, if the husband wants his wife to be happy and accomadating, then he should be too.

My fiance has told me that even if he's not in the mood he is happy to do it any way. So we both get what we want.

MEM11363

Syrum
He sounds like a good guy. Where I come from you are what you "do".

Not what you "say"

I think that's a really important thing MEM. It should go both ways, if the husband wants his wife to be happy and accomadating, then he should be too.

My fiance has told me that even if he's not in the mood he is happy to do it any way. So we both get what we want.[/QUOTE]
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Larrelye

You're asking the wrong question. Not why stay married. That answer is obvious. Your wife sees more to the relationship than sex. She sees a deeper connection. I understand men are different and need that to feel the closeness. Not all women do. I'm one of them.

The question you should be asking is why doesn't she want to have sex all of a sudden. If you have had a healthy/happy relationship then BAM! Something happened. Is she stressed, did an old flame pop up and now she is confused, scared, upset. If you (or her) don't see an obvious emotional issue and your relationship is normally good maybe it's a health issue. Medical conditions manifest themselves in many ways. For women a change in hormones may arise from unknown medical issues which would relate to a lack of sex drive.