07-31-2011, 06:42 PM
Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: United States
Friday night I return after a week of travel. I tell her it has been a long day and I am very tired.
She tells me she is taking a shower. I gently mention my fatigue. She repeats that she is taking a shower.
This equates to: we ARE having sex. I shrugged took a shower right after her and we had great sex.
Was I initially in the mood? Not at all. Did I get myself in the mood to make her happy? You betcha.
Was I resentful? For maybe 30 seconds yes. Could she tell? Heck no.
And I/we took our time and it was great.
This whole "me me me" song just would not play in our house.
Not with either of us.
For me, sex is a huge part of what makes me happy, and makes everything else in my world much less stressful. dr phil be damned.
of course im a once a month recipient, basically sexless marriage, and i am increasingly more unhappy and resentful about the other things in our life. but everyone in here is spot on, the LD spouse has not reason to change and simply wont.[/QUOTE]
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