This is yet another curious thread of mine...
Throughout my years I've always been in need to play the game, to flirt, to tease, to experience the thrill of the chase. I love to conquer, and to keep conquering... I've made some threads in regards to the missus' extremely high sexual drive which has been the result of many fights since marriage. Perhaps I simply can't settle into routine, or find enjoyment in sex without the chase.
Before marriage it was great, especially when we were just friends with a strong lust for each other, and even after I broke up with my ex she refused to become a rebound making things so much harder and fun for me, she was very difficult to seduce and I loved it so much!
Nowadays though, she not only rarely plays the game with me, but demands it. Perhaps her sex drive is a result of her past and issues that she won't admit - as I strongly suspect. Yet, perhaps I also have my own issues in which to deal with in regards of this. She doesn't seem to be able to let me go without emptying me out nor am I able to find pleasure with her giving herself to me so easily.
Of course, to solve things, she would have to admit to whatever is causing her rather insane sex drive and I also have to learn to appreciate sex without the challenge or conquest... in other words, change ourselves, but this is too deep.
What can we do? This is the last issue to deal with (we've weathered and solved so much already), but we've never overcome it. It seems to be a seesaw, I get my way, I'm happy at her expense, she gets her way, she's happy at my expense.
It's difficult to find a compromise in this.