Good evening
A post in another thread made me aware of something strange in my wife's sexual behavior. She rarely wants sex, but when she does, she physically enjoys it, often very enthusiastically.
That could be explained by her just rarely wanting sex, but I think there is more. The last couple of years she has given me a BJ as a "gift" for my birthday (a practice I'm going to stop). She really dislikes doing that, and won't do it any other time - but doing it gets her so aroused that she wants me to give her an orgasm afterwards (which I always do).
At times when we are lying in bed, if I say something vaguely sexual, she will tell me to stop because she doesn't want to get aroused.
But at the same time moderate intimacy - naughty notes at work, hugs, intimate kisses etc, she loves.
As I see it, its very strange, she seems to actively not want to become aroused - except on the rare occasions when she wants sex - and then it is always planned.
It is as if she sometimes wants sex - and then she will be sure to get it (not that I object, but she will make a real effort to overcome obstacles). At other times, she not only doesn't want sex, she doesn't want to want sex. Its almost as if having sex when she didn't plan it in advance is somehow giving in. Its as if she thinks spontaneous sex is wrong.
Anyone else seen similar behavior?
A post in another thread made me aware of something strange in my wife's sexual behavior. She rarely wants sex, but when she does, she physically enjoys it, often very enthusiastically.
That could be explained by her just rarely wanting sex, but I think there is more. The last couple of years she has given me a BJ as a "gift" for my birthday (a practice I'm going to stop). She really dislikes doing that, and won't do it any other time - but doing it gets her so aroused that she wants me to give her an orgasm afterwards (which I always do).
At times when we are lying in bed, if I say something vaguely sexual, she will tell me to stop because she doesn't want to get aroused.
But at the same time moderate intimacy - naughty notes at work, hugs, intimate kisses etc, she loves.
As I see it, its very strange, she seems to actively not want to become aroused - except on the rare occasions when she wants sex - and then it is always planned.
It is as if she sometimes wants sex - and then she will be sure to get it (not that I object, but she will make a real effort to overcome obstacles). At other times, she not only doesn't want sex, she doesn't want to want sex. Its almost as if having sex when she didn't plan it in advance is somehow giving in. Its as if she thinks spontaneous sex is wrong.
Anyone else seen similar behavior?