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Old 07-29-2011, 10:58 PM   #1 (permalink)
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OK, this is new for me. Just this month have I been able to do this.

I call it "sweet, sweet torture."

I really don't think it is possible if you are at all mentally resistant to the idea. Plus, you have to be willing to endure the sensations. Like, let go and work through the sweet torture of it.

Here is what workd for me. First, I was already horny.
Second, we have some foreplay followed by penetration sex. I may or may not O from penetration, but it gets me feeling really good. Get the blood flowing to the right areas.

Then, we take a butterfly (vibrating toy) and I lay on my back with towels under me. I work the butterfly while H fingers my G-spot. The first time we did this it actually took awhile and I was sobbing and shaking and kinda going crazy! But, we just kept going. Putting the vibration directly on my sweet spot was what felt like torture that I could barely stand, but that is what got me there. He had to keep rubbing right on my G-spot with the "come hither" motion through the whole thing.

You will start to feel a feeling very much like the urge to pee. Go with it! That is gonna happen right before you squirt...or gush.

Warning: I feel really wanting and needy afterwards. And awake. Also, I recommend using 2 folded up towels...or even a chucks pad under a towel.

The first time we did this the actual fingering part seemed to take maybe 30 minutes. The next time it was much, much less and the 3rd time it was even less. Because I had learned what to go for and how to get it done. So, try to be patient the first time.

Alright, anyone else out there have tips on what has gotten you to squirt?
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Old 07-30-2011, 08:12 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Hmmm... My GF was able to squirt with one particular toy that she bought. I think it was kind of unexpected, but she was able to relax enough and let go to make it happen.

Then we started seeing each other, and we decided to see if she could squirt with me. I did some research online, and found a video to demonstrated a technique to use. I really wish I could find it again, but no luck. But it involves fairly "aggressive" manipulation of her g-spot. One of the positions that works best is for her to lie on the bed. I kneel beside her, and insert my middle and ring fingers of my right hand into her. Other two fingers point down and out of the way.

This position places my two fingers at just the right spot to manipulate her g-spot. The "come here" motion works very well, but it's done quite aggressively. If I want her to, she'll squirt in less than two minutes, and I can repeat this multiple times. I think her "record" is 8 or so, and that was where I decided to stop.

It was a very "mental" process to begin with. She had to really focus on letting herself go with how it felt. Now, I think it's not nearly as much of an issue mentally; I don't think she could stop it from happening if I decided to make it happen. I would be very curious about whether the techniques I've learned with her would apply to another lover as well, but for now, I have no desire to test that.

We did the towels thing as well. Then we bought a Liberator blanket, on the advice of one of her friends. Even with the towels, it's nice to have something waterproof between her and the bed.

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This position places my two fingers at just the right spot to manipulate her g-spot. The "come here" motion works very well, but it's done quite aggressively.
This is a good point. I was giving commands like faster, harder and more. I would say it was quite aggressive. I joked that I was concerned he would get carpal tunnel syndrome or something. LOL
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Is gushing really legit? I mean, it just seems like peeing to me.

It does not sound pleasurable in any way, but maybe I'm missing something?
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Yes. It is a different fluid. It is not urine. It is odorless and colorless.
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Is gushing really legit? I mean, it just seems like peeing to me.

It does not sound pleasurable in any way, but maybe I'm missing something?
My wife doesn't like the loss of control involves with me but did admit that it was intensely pleasurable. It was only later that it bothered her. Mental inhibitions.
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I'm not inhibited in the sack, so I don't think that's my hesitation. It just doesn't look like it feels good.
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I am able to do this- but always worry that it's urine... I'd like to hear from men.... what do they think? Urine or not?
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I am able to do this- but always worry that it's urine... I'd like to hear from men.... what do they think? Urine or not?
It doesn't particularly matter what the men think...it's not urine. Seriously

Women have erectile tissue surrounding the urethra. What people like to refer to as the G-spot. When the tissue swells from stimulation, it produces ejaculatory fluid(containing many of the same components of male ejaculate), which can be released through the urethra(squirting or gushing). Sometimes it's sent straight into the bladder. There are some theories that the fluid actually contains microbes that "wash" out the urethra if released-- women's bodies' natural way of preventing urinary tract infections after sex.

Ancient Eastern cultures believed female ejaculation to be sacred and revered it to the point of worship. It's nothing to be inhibited or worried about.
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I'm not inhibited in the sack, so I don't think that's my hesitation. It just doesn't look like it feels good.
I would describe it as the most intense pleasure I've ever had. But, I would also say it is like falling to pieces or being wrecked....in a totally, totally good way.

Afterward I just want to be fused with my partner. Or go for another round.
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I would describe it as the most intense pleasure I've ever had. But, I would also say it is like falling to pieces or being wrecked....in a totally, totally good way.

Afterward I just want to be fused with my partner. Or go for another round.
So basically it is not that you squirt, but that the sensations that make you react like that?
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So basically it is not that you squirt, but that the sensations that make you react like that?
I think the gushing is just a product of the intense experience/orgasm. Like ejaculation for a man is not the orgasm. What is producing it for me is a strong clitoral and g-spot orgasm. That is probably what is making me all clingy afterwards too.
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I think the gushing is just a product of the intense experience/orgasm. Like ejaculation for a man is not the orgasm. What is producing it for me is a strong clitoral and g-spot orgasm. That is probably what is making me all clingy afterwards too.
Makes a lot of sense.
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I am able to do this- but always worry that it's urine... I'd like to hear from men.... what do they think? Urine or not?
Hey, it's not my body! . But no, it's not urine. It's not the same as regular vaginal secretions either. It's something else.

As far as the sensations... My GF reacts very strongly to those orgasms. Combine that with the fact that she can have multiples in a short period of time means that she can be left as a quivering, shaking wreck. A very satisfied wreck, though... . She has used her safe word with me occasionally as a result. But she has never said no to one either. At times afterwards, she's too sensitive to Be stroked anywhere, and the best thing I can do is cover her with a blanket and hold her for awhile as she recovers. She doesn't get particularly clingy, though.

I think at least partially, she LIKES giving up the control, btw.

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It's not pee, but the first time it did feel like that. I was a bit overwhelmed with a lot of stimulation and neither of us knew it was going to happen. I had only vaguely heard about it. I wasn't paying too much attention (ahem) but apparently I shot across the bed. I do remember that there was a point when I was getting overloaded with stimulation and I just thought "oh, what the heck" and let go (mentally). Then this thing happened! Since then I've noticed that I can get quite wet at the time of arousal from stimulation, but I haven't done that big squirting business more than a couple of times.

If you look at anatomy sites it is coming from a spongy tissue that surrounds the urethra. The back of the spongy tissue is behind the vaginal wall - that is the "G-spot". So there is some clear fluid that builds up in there, I guess and something makes it squeeze out all of a sudden. - something quite like an orgasm, or something just before an orgasm, if it is not actually a mother of an orgasm.

so, yeah, it is worth trying. definitely.
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